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writes:I have started dating this guy and we have been dating for about a month and I havent ever really dated before. i was wondering if i should let him pay everytime we go out or should i offer to pay or how that works!?... Reply to this Question
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (29 November 2007):
 If you are doing the inviting, then it would be a good idea to at least OFFER to pay. Perhaps you would like to go to a concert or play, then just buy the tickets yourself. Do expect him to get them for you. Then when you go out to dinner before hand offer to pay as it was your idea to go out, but if he says he wants to pay for dinner than let him. It is not something to fight about. He may feel belittled if you argue the point, but he also may feel taken advantage of it you never reciprocate. Also cooking dinner or buying him a gift are nice ways to reciprocate. It is not really about paying equal dollars, but about being equally invested in the relationship and not one being just the giver or just the taker.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 You wouldn't pay for everything when you went out with a friend...right? So you should pay for your boyfriend sometimes too. He does nto have the obligation to use his money to pay for your fun, food, transportation etc. After a while some people resent the fact they always have to pay. It's just the cortious thing to do. In the old days it was normal, not so much now.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Hi
You should offer to pay but if he says no then just let him pay. When i go out with my bf i dont really pay. My bf and i are both working and we combine out money but when it come to paying for a meal he would do it. I would prefer to pay half but he insists on paying. I therefore, use my money for other things( toiletries for him and i etc)
Regards
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Back in the days it was a case of the man pays for everything but now times ave changed and yes females can sometimes pay for it all or go splits.
Always offer to pay and if he declines then fair enough at least you have offered.
Peaches
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