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writes:Where do I start...I've been with my partner on and off for 5 years. We have a daughter together. Everything was great until I fell pregnant then the name calling started. Shortly after my daughter was born I ended an moved out. But about 1 1/2 years ago we met up to talk about our daughter and I fell straight bk love a gain so we got back together. Things was ok ( not calling me names or being violent everyday) but I lived with it for my family. Last night he realised I had a old Facebook account and went MENTAL to say the least so I deleted it to find out he's on there adding girls. I wouldn't mind but what's this he can but I can't.Im not happy and it sounds silly but I've lost everything about me. I feel fat ugly worthless I could cry just writing this.He's warn me down so much my life seems ended. If it wasn't for my daughter I wouldnt b here now.I don't no whether to talk to home or end it and endings it will be hard as I feel he's the only person out there who'll put up with me.I hate feeling like this I just need some1 to help me choose what's best..Thanks for reading this lol x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks sorry just had a really bad night lol..
I'm ok now
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): He is targetting all his insecurities and weaknesses at you. Someone like that does not speak the thruth, they are just full of malice. Although you may have loved him, you don't need him. The previous poster is correct, they may not know you but you have shown yourself to be a great mom in taking care of your little girl. Out of darkness can come light. There are so many women and men who leave a leavr hurtful relationships every day and survive despite feeling like that is impossible for them at the time.. The darkness lifts with time and quicker than you'd think. Move out, reach out to your family, move on. You will do just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This is an abusive and controlling man, so you need to get out of the relationship ASAP. Things will not get better. They'll only get worse. I have a feeling this man has been or will be violent.
And you're wrong. There is someone out there who will love you and treat you much better. You don't have to put up with this kind of abuse. Leave and never look back.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 You speak as though no one else can stand you. There is so much here that screams misguidance. I assure you there are people out there who love you. Your daughter for example. You are a precious jewel to all who love you and rest assured that if you leave this deranged tyrant, you and your daughter will be happy.
What you have now is not love so leave him and find true happiness within yourself. You are beautiful, do not let this man cast his black veil over your face when you look at yourself. You are beautiful in every way and I know it and you know it and your daughter knows it.
He is holding you down and you cannot allow that. Break free from his rusting chains. Leave him and put your life together. Excercise so you know for a fact that you are still the confident woman you once were. Take care of your daughter so you will always have love. You are never alone and you will always have someone who will smile at you when you come home. I am not talking about the ravenous demon you are with right now.
Go to your family and just be happy with them. You need not end your life because of this man, he is not worth it. The darkness is passing and the brightest moments of your future have yet to come, you only need to leave this relationship and take a step forward.
I hope that helps.
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