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writes:Iv been getting to know a boy for two months now. we meet up, sometimes alone but usually with mates. The thing is nothing has happend between us, we only hug when saying goodbye and we text each other almost everyday. last night i told him how i feel on the phone. he said i thought we were just mates, and he doesnt know if he would get with me. what does this mean? shall i just move on because hes not intrested or is he just shy? please help...
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reader, shiraz +, writes (5 October 2008):
hiyah, its really hard but i dont think he wants a relationship with you hun, guys send all these signals but when it comes down to that serious all emotion talk they back away they almost clam shut and thats the end of it.
He seems to like hangin with you as mates so why not give that a go? you dont need a guy to have fun! he would of told you by now if he wanted more and the fact he backed away says he likes you as a friend i know its goin to hurt but id move on
Not all guys are the same though dont let this change your views altogether!
Best of luck x :)
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Sometimes guys at that age can be rather shy. However if he isn't,then he could be feeling a bit uneasy now knowing that you like him for more than just a friend. The nice friendship that you two were developing has now changed and he may not know quiet how to feel about it all. Hopefully he will continue to be comfortable being your friend. If he isn't interested in pursuing anything further then you will have to accept his decision.
For now you need to just take it day by day. Give him the chance to see you as a friend and let him think on how he views the idea of a bf/gf relationship. Take it slow, don't push him. Alot of guys tend to be embarrassed if the word gets around that someone likes them. This might cause him to back away from you or to get upset about the fact that everyone seems to know. For now when you see him do your best to act like you always have toward him. If he decides to go further in a relationship with you then let him be the one to make the moves.
If a guy really likes you he will eventually let others know most likely. Word gets around! It's typical that he will flirt or even ask you out to do something special with him. If he does just be polite and accept if you choose but dn't read to much into it. For now you have to give him time to decide if he likes you that way or it there is a chance he will grow to. Remember that you two are still young enough and you DO have Plenty of Time! Don't rush things,take your time and be yourself!It is better to have a great friend than an enemy anyday. "WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES ANOTHER ONE OPENS." So if friendship is all he can give you don't worry because there could be someone else waiting who wants to give you more."OPEN MY EYES TO MY HEART LORD"
God knows your heart. Pray for His will.
God Bless,
Blue_Angel
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