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30-35,
*oey 2008
writes:Ok i'm gunna cut a long story short. Me and my gf have been together for over 3 years, i thought everything was going fine, i took her to orlando, florida in april and suprised her with swimming with dolphins which was her life dream, we have spoken about moving in together even looked at houses, talked about wanting to spend the rest of our lives together and so on. on the 19th of july we had a argument about her going out clubbing with her mate,and other things, sicne going out with this mate she has been acting funny, very quiet ect.. she has also been worried about her health as she is always feeling tired, we now know what this is. on our argument she said she thinks we both want different things, she asked for a break to try and think what she wants i have done this, i asked her and said do you want to be with me and she said part of me does and part of me wants to be single. she said at the moment i just want you to be here as a friend for me, but me and you are still a couple. she texted me at the end of that week asking how work was and stuff and i suggested going out for a walk or something and she said i cant today i suggested the next day she didnt bother to reply. Its been 2 weeks since i've seen her or spoken to her, I still have access to their house as they gave me a key, i have one of her bank cards, and some of her clothes and stuff. This monday is the 8th which is the date we first got together on, shall i go round with some flowers and talk or what, as it has nearly been two months, I honestly dont know what to do as im sure she is the one for me. Please Help :( P.S sorry for the long question :)
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reader, Lavendre  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 Oh baby you sound like a guy a girl would love. You sound like you indeed love that girl, let me tell you something though she'll be back fully soon as a girl ill tell you whats up.i suspect that her mate is a boy, since you have two have been together for a three years what has happened is that she knows most of what she needs to know about you. She's met someone new and she's just going to get caught up in thinking that he's lovely, nice and probably even thinks that she loves him more than you. She'll soon and very soon get tired of him and realise that she could never have loved anyone loves she does you. Dont fret about it and ofcourse go over to her place and do the flowers thinks your going to remind her that you remembered and she'll realize what she's been missing. She'll love you more. Let me know what happened!1
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reader, Alice.xo +, writes (6 September 2008):
 Hello,I think the only way your going to find out where she stands is to go and see her and speak to her about it. That way you can find out whats what. However I wouldn't go on your anniversary or any date which has any relevance to your relationship, it would be too insensitive to do so. But to make sure an argument isnt caused over you not doing anything for your anniversary, I would mail some flowers to her with a simple concise message telling her hoe you feel.If she doesnt talk to you or doesnt want to sort things out, then I'm not sure if she is worth it. It sounds very cliche but there are plenty more fish in the sea, and you are still young.So in short, try your best to talk to her and sort things out, but if she doesnt want to know then she isnt worth it.I hope this was of some help to you,Alice xx
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reader, miso31  +, writes (6 September 2008):
You said you now know what it is that is making her so tired, does she have an illness? Is she pregnant? That is a key to this. I am so sad that she is not being straight forward with you - as you surely deserve it. There is something going on and it's unfair that she's not communicating it with you. Do you want to be with someone who can't tell you honestly what is bothering her? It sounds like she is breaking your heart and your letting yourself slowly bleed with hanging on to hope for the two of you. Tell yourself you will try once more to give her the opportunity to either explain what is going on or for her to have the decency to properly break up with you. If she doesn't give you this courtesy, you must accept the harsh truth. Surround yourself with people who care and love you and will help you heal.
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