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writes:Sexual Addiction? Anyone out there have a sexual addiction that has caused a lot of pain and distrust between you and your partner? Did you get help? Can a person in this situation change? Can a partner trust again? Did therapy help? Love to hear input from anyone who has been invovled in this situation regardless of which end you are or were in. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 What type of sexual addiction? Timm D is very right that normal bad behaviour gets labelled as addiction thus making the term useless for purposes of medical diagnosis. Psychotherapist will no longer use the term addiction in the future due to the tendency of lay people to misuse it.
Many of them online tests, will label most people as sick and needing help, due to classifying behaviour that upsets someone else (rather than something that is injurious to the patients health)as a problem that needs to be solved.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Sexual addiction is not to be confused with cheating. It should never be used as an excuse for cheating. While someone may be addicted to sex, they still know the difference between right and wrong. If your partner has sex addiction, they should be looking towards you for sex. It may be often, but it should be towards you. If they have gone outside of the relationship, then it's not just sex addiction... it's more.
Also, as a side note... a true case of sex addiction is very unlikely. It's just become an excuse now for people, specifically men, who want more then one partner.
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reader, LittleAlfie +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Sexual addiction ranges on a pretty wide spectrum. Personally, my addiction wasn't so much the sexual interaction, but an addiction to the thrill of new and different sexual partners. The more disconnected, the better. For me, it cost me the first and only woman I've ever loved.
Unfortunately, there's no magic pill to fix the underlying issues. The good news is that you can change with the proper self motivation.
Begin by finding out what's causing you to feel this addiction. It's almost always an inner personality trait that urges you to fill some sort of void. Next, address it. You nerd to be vocal about your addiction with those you care about. Have conversations explaining your desire to change. This can help get you the support you need to fight through this process. After that, weed out any trigger points that make you want to indulge yourself. Alcohol, private settings, etc.
With enough time and effort, along with self reflection and support, you can begin a new lifestyle with a clean slate, and if accomplished properly, change your outlook entirely, until resisting you temptations becomes second nature.
I hope this helps, and let me know how everything works out for you. Good luck :)
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