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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend won't have sex with me when I am on my period. It's nothing to worry about to have sex on my period - what should I do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2014): If he really doesn't want to then you should just respect his wishes. However, if he is willing to hear you out then maybe you could try some of these things;1) Use a condom - less messy and prevents the guy from getting blood on his penis2)Sex in the shower - definitely cleaner and the water will prevent him seeing any blood at all - I recommend this one the most. 3) Wait until you're not on heavily - for me the 3rd, 4th and 5th day of my period is usually fine to have sex as there is less blood and therefore not as messy. Also keep in mind the positions you do if you end up having sex whilst on your period, him on top for example will make it less messy than you going on top would as you'll be laying down so less blood will come out. If he still doesn't want to, then don't push him, some men are a lot less comfortable with periods than others and it would be unfair to make him do something that scares or repulses him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): Please don't push him; it's not fair. You wouldn't like him to push you when you don't like something. As long as he'll still hug you and sleep *next* to you, then you're fine :)
Also, condoms are necessary every time to prevent STDs and pregnancy; it can happen at any time, so don't forget that :)
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (26 March 2014):
@Anonymous 123: I don't think that's any of your concern. Driving one mile per hour over the speed limit is also illegal.
@OP: the obvious answer is to respect what he says. Getting blood on their penis may be a little to much for some guys to handle.
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (26 March 2014):
 You can't do anything to change his mind if he doesn't want to have sex during your periods.besides its a turn off to some guys because its messy,and bloody...so some guys are turned off by that I suppose..you could wait till your periods finish then do it..its not like you've got to wait for the whole month.its just few days..
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female
reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (26 March 2014):
 Respect his wishes.
Many women feel very turned on during their period but if your guy doesn't like having sex at this time there is nothing you can or should do to make him.
As other aunts say there are steps you can take to make it less messy but ultimately, the decision is his.
Just to note, please don't think that you are "safe" NOT to use contraception whilst on your period, you're NOT!
You are just as susceptible to STD's as well, so do use protection.
I hope this helps AB x
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female
reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 March 2014):
 The bigger question is, why is a 16 year old girl in India having sex in the first place? If I'm not wrong then the legal age for consensual sex in India is 18.
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female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2014):
 You should accept and respect his feelings of not wanting to have sex while you have your period.
If you feel the need to have an orgasm (as they can help relieve cramps) then masturbate.
NEVER force or cajole someone into doing something they don't want to do. That indicates a lack of respect for the person.
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2014):
 If he doesn't WANT to have sex with you while on your period, my advice is to respect that.
YOU might feel like it's nothing to worry about, obviously he does.
There are 21-25 more days of the month for sex, so relax.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (26 March 2014):
 OP, some men just don't enjoy it, find it a bit yucky (especially in the first 1-2 days when heavier). I don't know whether you two use condoms, but if not, he could try using a condom so it doesn't feel/ seem so yucky to him. Put a towel under you before you start and have tissues handy for afterwards. Other than that, there's not much you can do; you can't force him.
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