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writes:Hi GuysHappy New Year to everyone! My problem is that I confessed feelings I had for a female friend of mine this year, and to cut a very long story short, we haven't spoke since I did so, and basically cut each other out of each others lives. I miss her, and I feel that life is....well....a little too short!So, should I use this opportunity to wish her a happy new year and at least regain "speaking-terms" with her? OR, do I leave it, let go, and forget I ever met her.... Advice please?Thanks Guys x Reply to this Question
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (31 December 2009):
I went through something similar with my best friend, I know how you feel.
To me, it depends on how the break occurred ( did you both mutually walk away or did she walk away?) and when it occurred. If it hasn't been too long and was mutual, then I would say there is nothing wrong with sending her a simple "happy new year" note.
On the other hand, if she was the one who walked away and this happened back in say February and you haven't heard from her since, then I hate to say it but you should just let it go.
best of luck
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (31 December 2009):
 It doesn't hurt to try! When making amends, you can't control the response or lack of one. But you will have done your part by making the effort.
And you can always know that at least you tried.
She may be missing you too. Perhaps she has been waiting for you to take the first step.
I wish you luck whatever you decide!
~BG~
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): I totally understand you. I am in this situation myself. I have fallen for a guy friend, which we were somewhat seeing each but nothing was labled or officially said I guess, anyways it is and was a weird situation. Anyways he ran because he disclosed a little bit of feelings for me and it freaked him out and he broke everything off.So we went without talking for almost a month. On xmas I text him and wished him merry christmas not expecting a reply but I got one. We have somewhat been talking here and there but I dont know what the future holds. Anyways my advice if its been a few weeks since you have talked I would say go for it. If she responds start slow dont come off with questions that I know you deseratly want answers to. Maybe she is a commmitment phob just like the guy that landed me in my position. Its not fun, but like I said try see what happens and if nothing happens then move on... Goodluck to you
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