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writes: I have a problemMy boyfriend and I have been together 2 months. He seems to have a very high sex drive. We haven't had sex yet as i want to wait, but my problem is, i want to talk about things in our relationship and how much i love him and things like that. Instead, all he seems interested in is talking about is sex! it's driving me crazy. I don't mind us being intimate now and again, but it's all the time! He rarely says he misses me or anything, though he does tell me he loves me sometimes. But it just seems like sex is all that's on his mind. When we get to talk to eachother after so long, i'd rather talk about our relationship, but he just dosen't seem interested in it, it's all about sex: his fantasies etcWhat do i do? I don't want to hurt his feelings or anything but it really gets to me. I am also wondering if this may be his way to just get me into bed and have his way with meI really really need some advice!thanks to anyone who responds
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reader, tux  +, writes (27 March 2006):
 Move on is actually the way to go. A) If he loved you, he should wait. b) If he loved you, he talk about more things than just sex. It is pretty normal to want to have sex. I can see it coming up when you are intimate. But not all the time. and it may be the best for both of you to move on because you'd just be wasting your time. I wasted a whole year :/ she never did satisfy me though she made sure she was.. *gasp* but now i'm in a great relationship though I think she has a bigger sex drive than myself.
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reader, atomic +, writes (21 March 2006):
I know it's hard because I was in your position, but if its any conselation, my boyfriend isn't like that at all now, it's the other way around! He doesn't tend to want to have sex as much as I do! Make the most of it! Only joking! You got to just say, I haven't got as high a sex drive as you, sex is enjoyable but I'd rather do it when I really want it and enjoy it 100 times more, rather than do it and not really want to. He should start to understand what you are telling him. Good luck! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): Hi, i'm the poster againI don't know how to tell him though. I know it sounds stupid, but i can't find the words or anything, and i don't want us to fall out
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (18 March 2006):
 If that is the case and what you think then you need to be completely straight with him and tell him that he has to stop pressurising you with all his talk of sex. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you dont want to hear it. You will let him know when/if you are ready.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2006): hi again, i was the person who posted the question.I just want to add that once, he did ask me to go over to his house and i said no because i felt like we were moving too fast, and he was fine with it, he didn't put any pressure on me or anything. He didn't dump me or anything, he said he felt that i was being the sensible one and i had a good point. So that makes me think that he isn't just using me.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (17 March 2006):
He is probably telling you he loves you in order to get sex!! If you dont love him, or even if you do, but still dont feel ready for sex then lose this guy. Sexual incompatability causes many good relationships to flounder and this guy and you sound exually incompatible!
Ditch him and find a person who will take things at your speed without trying to *push* you into something you just are not ready for.
Good luck xx
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reader, smeedle +, writes (17 March 2006):
 Dich him, he is not compatable with you and never will be.
He is not respectful and is not listening to you, your feelings are counting for nothing and he is only telling you he loves you so he can get you into bed, lip service is all he is doing, so ditch him and find a nice bloke.
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (17 March 2006):
 Seems there is only one thing on this guys mind and its not love!
If you're not ready to have sex with him tell him why and tell him his continual talk of it is driving you apart.
If he loves you as I think you love him he will back off, If not find someone who wants more from you than just sex.
The last thing you want is to give in to the pressure and end up a notch on his bedpost, it will do nothing for you self esteem and leave you feeling used.
Find someone with a brain in thier head and not in thier pants!
Good luck!
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