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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am in love with two amazing girls and I cnat figure out which one to pick and I am hurting all of them including myself. Girl A I dated for 8 years and everything was amazing except the sex. She is caring, loving, and would do anything for me and is the most loyal girl I have ever met. She is 33 and I am 33 as well. When it comes to sex, she is just not a very creative and sexual person. I have tried everything to spice it up but to no avail. I decided to take a break and I met a 23 year old, girl B. She is smokin hot, and we have the most amazing chemistry together. Everyone says we are the cutest couple they have ever met. And the sex is the most amazing I have ever had. The only drawback with her is she is not as cool about me hanging out with guy friends and she gets a little whiny at times. Well after a year with her I missed my ex so much I broke up with her and got back with girl A. Once again I was so happy, but the sex still sucked... to the point where I don't even enjoy it with her and I can't even orgasm sometimes. After about 3 months I missed the girl B so I broke up with girl A(again) and got back with girl B. The sex was still mind boggling and she really is a sweet girl. But now I miss girl A tremendously and I feel like I am missing out on probably the sweetest girl in the world. I guess it all comes down to sex or sweetness. I am concerned sex will get old with the 23 year old and I will regret not staying with the girl A. I decided to break up with the 23 year old (again.... call me crazy) and take some time to myself and try to figure things out. This did not work as I miss both equally and I am killing myself tring to figure out what to do. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, Psyence  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 have you tried just talking to girl a, in a sensitive way? maybe saying, you know, it would mean a lot to me if we could try x in bed, because i think it would make us a better couple in bed, more passionate, you know. i know that if she loves you she will do it, because girls are usually willing to do anything for the guy they love and vice versa.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (13 March 2009):
Besides chemistry and sex are there other things you like about Girl B? It seems you like her so much mainly because of the sex you lacked so much with Girl A - who other than sex was perfect.From what you have said it sounds like whichever way you go you will feel there is something missing. Have you considered that maybe neiter of them are a suitable match?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Sounds like its love with girl A and lust with girl B. Have you tried talking to girl A about your sex life? Maybe suggesting a few new things? Usually people want to please their partner and are happy to do what would make them happy. I know that personally, i have been with guys that dont do it for me sexually but as soon as you open the lines of communication things can really get better. Maybe she is shy, you just have to help her get past it. Be supportive. And you are right, eventually the sex with girl B WILL get old and then where will you be left? If you want a relationship with substance then I would say girl A and talk to her about it. Whoever you do decide to pick, you should do it quickly, this isnt fair to either of them. Good luck.
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