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reader, lesliervra  +, writes (2 May 2009):
I hate Adult Friend Finder as well! I am going through the same thing with my husband. To me there is no reason for a man in a commited relationship to have an account...if he is just looking then he is not content with what he has (his loss)! I have been going through this for a while and girl I can tell you that if he is like my man things will not change, he will just use different email accounts and websites. Hopefully you are in a better situation now. I know it's not easy!
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reader, dawnday1  +, writes (18 April 2009):
how many woman does one man want he needs putting in his place I have found my boyfriend on this site with a gold membership the site needs blowing up would like to exterminate adult friend finders does anyone out there know how to do this
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): you shouldn't even have to go to all this work…the fact that he's doing it all…dump his ass…he's a waste of your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): instead of makin a fake account do a proper account n do wat he is doin n c wat he says bout it
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to everyone who answered me back! I really appreciate it! :) but like I said I just made another fake account a few weeks ago and have been messaging him the past couple of days. Im actually thinking about buying a cheap pay as you go phone or something to see if he would send pictures or not.. all of this seriously makes me sick to my stomach :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): what an ass theres more fish in the sea i wouldent even put up with that bull!@#^
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): I think you should set him up and see how far he goes and then dicide whether to saty or leave. It could be that he is addicted to a bad habbit but may never go as far as meeting a gal and having an affair.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): I guess your boyfriend's trying to "Keep The Cake & As well as Eat It" I myself was a member on the cited Site for quite some time... Was Constantly Adviced &Prompted to keep "Up-Grading" my membership... To ABSOLUTELY No Effect
(It's An International Profit Making Organization) Taking Naive & Lonely People
for A Ride... Hence my advice is for you to tell him "Instead of paying the Gold
Membership" Fees To Take you out to a posh & classy restaurant or whatever?
Good Luck & Take Care
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (13 March 2009):
Sounds like your boyfriend is "looking" for another girlfriend, an affair or sex. You know this, you've already caught him out, and to make it worse he isn't even apologetic or regretful.From what you have said it seems he isn't going to stop "looking" either. Catching him out again won't help your situation - you need to decide whether you want to be with someone who is constantly looking for someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): if he has a girlfriend he shouldnt be doing those sorts of things…you can look at porn everywhere…not with a freakin gold account on adult friend finder…i'd be pissed too…super pissed…its one thing to look at porn…its another to sign up for a site where you can get a booty call
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (13 March 2009):
 okay. First you need to calm down. You have every right to feel betrayed and angry, but what you need to do now is catch him. get prove that he is "cheating"
As much as you are hurting now, you have to face the truth. Think with your head and not your heart.
If I were you. I would go ahead and exchange emails and pics. see how far he takes it with another girl. This will be your prove on what kind of man he is.
The truth is he's still so young and his biology make it where he wants to see what else is out there.
He probably does love you, but not ready to be in a serious relationship. Of course this is no excuse, but
it is what it is.
So if he's paying for this thing, you better bet he's serious about meeting other girls. The question now is..what are you going to do about it. That's what setting up boundries are all about. As much as you love him, you have every right to find a boyfriend that will give you 100% devotion. I say you are sooooo young. You too should go out to see what's out there. Set up your own account and look for men too. In fact..why don't you tell him you are going on the same site to look at porn/meet men and see if he likes it. Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): First of all, he is a liar. You do know that dont you? He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Send him packing sweetie. There is no reason he should have a profile on ANY site if it wasnt to meet people. Dont let him play with your head and your heart like this. I have been through this same thing. Trust me I know how you are feeling. You want to grasp any little part of this that says maybe he isnt lying and cheating so you dont have to lose him. Its not going to happen. He isnt good for you. Best to just move on. Good luck to you, let me know how it goes and what you decide.
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