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writes:Hi,I'm 20 years old and had my first kiss and sex when i was 18 years old.he told me he's like me. and waiting for the right time, right girl, we didnt even rush things and waited for the "moment" to come. we lasted for 2 years with that guy. but we broke up because we moved here in Canada. a lot of guys really tried to date me but i was so picky and didn't really last and now i am with this guy, i thought were the same because he only had 5 girl friends in his past. i don't really care if he did that with love and when he was more mature but he was 13 years old when he had his first. to think that, that was too young and they did that after 3months together, it really bothers me every now and then. it hurts too much that i wanted to let go of him. but he said he really loves me. and he had his second experience when he was 18 years old and just left the girl after a year because he said the girl was dull and boring.i don't know but i think like i am a girl who's really looking for a good guy. like a guy who had sex because of love and reason of breaking up is because of the girl and not because of him especially when they had past. i really love him as well but there are really times that i just don't feel like ending up with him. we've been together for 2 years. in our culture we're Asians, sex is a very sacred thing for us and not be done with out love or not to be done at a very young age. i must admit i still did that with him but after almost 7 months together. because i just don't want him to leave me and to think about his past sex relationship. but he didnt force me or anything..am i just like this because i never had too much experienced on my past? but i really chose to be that. i am just really looking and thought i would find a guy that had one great sex and because they love each other and did that after they were serious about them. was that bad? am i making this a very big deal? and to think i had my past to? but that was it, one guy and we were so inlove...i dont know what to do:( i feel stupid for feeling this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): His values are different from yours. If you really care about yours then you break up with him.
I could go on for paragraphs but this is what it really boils down to.
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (8 November 2007):
 It's a big deal and somthing to consider for sure. Your past was very different from his. 13..very young, plus with your culture I can see how it means more to you and how he rebeled almost.
I'm in high school and just found out that all these people I know just have sex at parties all the time. They just started doing this with people that they are barly friends with. Now I have less respect for these people because I want to find someone who loves me and isn't just a hook-up.
Good Luck. If it's not right than he's not the one.
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reader, Hopeful Romantic  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 I have found that couples stay happiest together when they do not talk about past relationships.
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