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writes: Dear Cupid, I have a problem and I really need some advice. I am a lesbian and I am going out with my girlfriend six months now and things are great except sexually. I was raped six years ago now and everyime she touches me I kinda seize up. Is there anything I can do to relax myself about sex?.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Sweetheart
You need professional counselling to get you thru this. I will tell you it works from personal experience, and also because I am a survivor of rape like you.
Go, get help, and start to live your life again.
Good luck and hugs.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): I know what you are going through... I too was raped, and had a hard time being able to confront having sex. If you are truley in love with this person then you will be able to go through with it. Im not going to lie it will be a bit wierd at first, but try not to think about the past, concentrate on the person you have who cares deeply for you. But if you cant help but think about the past when you and your partner get close, then all I can say is you have to go to counciling before you are able to enjoy it. I read numerouse books and on the web and came to terms with what happend to me before I had sex, I think you should do the same. Because you definetly should not do anything until you are ready or else it could end up ruining any and every potential sexual relationship in the future.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 I'm afraid that you will probably need to get some professional counseling in order to get something as serious as rape behind you. If you are in the US there are all kinds of rape crisis centers that can refer you or help you in house. Look them up in the phone book and make the call. You'll feel better. Good luck, I know you'll be just fine.
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reader, lori +, writes (1 February 2006):
you need to come to terms with this iv been there i know i found leaving a light on while making love helped me it made me see what i needed to and not think about what happened try talking to your girlfriend about this it will help her to understand why you sometimes seize up time and talk is a great healer dont let this person who abused you take anymore of your valuble time by thinking about what they did i really hope you can move on from this as i did all the best
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