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writes:i am going to have sex for the first time tomorrow but am scared that his penis will not fit in me :S hellp please? what should i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): sweetheart your too young!! you really should wait... i'll tell you something... okay well the first time i did it... i hurt so BAD! there was pain down there for weeks.. i didnt even go to school cuz i hurt so bad.. :(
there was blood everywhere!! on a white bed too. blah.. we used condoms and i was taking birth control.. but those things dont always work. there condom broke.. so 5weeks later i found out i was pregnant... :(
i did have the baby. i didnt get to go to prom cuz i had to watch my baby.. (kendra)
it was a bad choice.. sweetheart you should wait... till your older..
and having the baby was so much pain.. i loved the guy i had sex with but his mom was a god person (obessed a little too much) so she sent her son off to the army... he was 17 and i was only 15 too young to have a kid.. b4 he left he asked me to marry him... i did.. but he cheated on me... so it was off...
so now im 15 with a 9month child.. i luvv my baby girl but wish i would of waited.. now im a single mom only 15.. cant drive, dont have a job.. i used to be a beautiful model, and played cheerleading for my school.. now im siting in a house with my baby... wishing i didnt have sex.. wishing i would have waited.. we played safe.. too :(( do you know how many men wanna be with a 15-year-old mother?? not alot... they dont care if i won homecoming queen, im a model, miss popular, or i ran a cheerleading team... they dont want to dill with a kid.. :(( so i'll prob. end up never being marring.. never living my dreams, ect. just cuz i didnt wait.. :(
plz sweetheart... your a beautiful young girl.. plz wait.. if you do be really careful use two or 3 condoms make sure your not pregnant.. plzz!!
but i rather you wait.. it really hurts..
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (9 August 2010):
 I don't think you are really worried about the anatomical issues at all. I think you are worried about having sex full-stop, and quite rightly too. Most people are nervous and anxious. The fact is that your brain is telling you to wait until you are older, and in a stable relationship. The reason why it is illegal to have sex under 16 in the UK (or at least to give consent to sex) is in recognition that young people do not have the emotional maturity to handle the situation, as well as to protect against exploitation. Research shows that girl's who start having sex young are typically lacking in self esteem which makes it easier for someone to persuade them to do it. It is far better to wait until you are older and more certain of yourself than to get into something you may regret for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): Just another grownup saying please, please consider waiting. I didn't have sex until I was 19 - at least 5 years older than you are now - and even though it was with a man I was in totally love with, and who was very considerate, it (a) hurt like hell and (b) made such an imprint on my life that more than 25 years later, I still remember him vividly, even though he left me six months later and hasn't been a part of my life since then. Having sex with someone creates a bond with that person and is not something to take lightly, and at your age, you are not ready to handle the fallout - even if it doesn't include pregnancy or VD, either of which is more than possible. I hope you listen to the advice you're getting and WAIT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): You are too young.. don't do it. Honestly relationships from the 13-15 year range aren't long term. He won't be around for long I'm sad to say. There is nothing wrong with waiting till you are older.
And if you are worried about pain.. *shudder* I encourage you to wait. I know it's not the case for everyone but my first time was extremely painful with blood gushing everywhere. If I wasn't as mature as I was I would have freaked out even more because of it.
In addition no birth control is 100% effective. Personally I'd wait till you are out of high school. That way even if things go wrong and you get pregnant, you at least have something to fall back on. Enjoy your childhood, it's the best time =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): Im srry to say this but you are to young to have sex im 14 &yea somtimes i feel like havin sex but i respect myself In this world there is 2 types of girls the easy's "hoes"& the ones who know how to respect themselves...which 1 are you?plus After yur bf has sex wit yu no matter how much he says he loves yu most likley he will 1.dump yu the next day "or" 2.he will wait a while &then dump yu &there goes yur virginity Trust me you will regret it when yu grow up i know this cuz my homies trust me&they tell how this goes but its all up to yu
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Stop. You are toooooo young to have sex. What are you thinking? I can tell you aren't ready and you are scared to death. Why don't you value yourself more than this?
Teen boys have only sex on their minds. They will say anything ANYTHING to get into your pants incluing I love you. But a 13 year old boy, a teenage boy is incapable of giving you what you want and need from a sexual relationship. What you will get are regrets, pain, possible STD's including but limited to HPV a virus that can lead to cervical cancer! It is HIGHLY contagious and condoms do not protect against it. HPV can live under your boy friend's fingernails. Being young age makes you extremely high risk for contracting this virus. It is uncleaar why this is, but your risk factors go down for it after age 21 or so. Having sex once or with one person is all it takes to get it, it doesn't mean you are promiscuous, just young and sexually active.
You have plenty of time to have sex, you are only a KID once, stop and think and just say NO.
You will be glad you did. Do you want a baby at 13? A kid raising a kid? Your parents will end up suffering for your mistake by raising your child should you fall pregnant and your child will suffer not having the best start in life. Just don't do it. We're talking about sex, not a life goal like going to school to further your education and achieving career goals that will allow you to travel and have the success in life that you want. ALL of that can change with an unwanted pregnancy that started out with the insane idea that 13 year olds should be having sex. It's stupid.
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (9 August 2010):
 If you have to ask, you are not ready. I say you wait awhile until you find someone truly worthy, dear.
But, if you insist, be safe and use condoms. You might even consider the pill. If an accident happens (condom breaks, etc.), get a Plan B morning after pill.
Now, to be frank and answer your question... Yes, he will fit. It might hurt like hell and you might bleed, though. You can diminish this a little with some practice with fingers or small toys. But it most likely will still be uncomfortable at first. Using lubrication can help ease that discomfort. After some time, those feelings should pass and it should be on the pleasurable side.
However, I really hope you think this decision through. You are so young for such a big decision. You have your entire life to be randy. Be safe, be smart. Best of luck. ;-)
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reader, maofone +, writes (9 August 2010):
you have your whole life time to have sex. wait wait wait!
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