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writes:I am thinking about having sex for the first time. Does it hurt and can somebody give me details Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 it might hurt...
I am going to ask you to please please please PLEASE not do it....
if you have to ask for details i think you are not ready.
my daughter had sex the first time at 15 and at 18 met a boy she truly loves... and she cried that she had not waited for him...
please think long and hard about this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): Yes,darling it sure must hurt, the degree is what differs as everyone has their own pain threshold, and also the parts involved have never been doing that activity since birth, so u see, it'll be somewhat uncomfortable but I'll advice u to wait till u're of legal age.
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reader, TamyKarcz  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Well dear.. it's definitely your choice...your body... your mind who takes those actions... Therefor i won't even try and tell you not to do it. Although you're quite young... in the end it doesn't matter what others tell you, cause you will approach the problem either way!
Now on to the virginity and all that jazz! I can tell you, that yes it CAN hurt, but it's NOT a rule! You could bleed a little, feel a hell lot of a pain, OR just discomfort but no pain/blood.
Some details you asked... well, the foreplay is actually the key to happiness, trust me! If he knows how to touch you, where to touch you, half of the problem is solved! Take your time, don't rush things, start slowly, let him 'analyze' your body bit by bit, and once again go slow! SLOW! you don't need to be in a rush, cause after all nobody is chasing you! One major thing is to BE actually there, don't let your mind wonder elsewhere, pay attention on what excites you, what's turning you on and go from there.. if you feel you'll losing control because of the pleasure... VICTORY!
If you feel pain, tell him, communication was invented for a reason you know?! If he goes too fast and you feel any kind of discomfort, don't be shy and tell him. If he really cares about you, he'll understand.
Ok, but just to be sure.... use protection, a condom is not protecting you only from an unwanted pregnancy, but also from stds !
Good luck love! ^_~
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 If you need to ask for details then you are too young and uneducated about it.
Wait until you are older to understand the physical and emotional concequences of sex.
You dont have to wait till you get married, wait until you find someone who respects you enough to have sex with a girl who isnt underage. Any guy you sleep with now could end up in jail becuase you both broke the law.
Take a moment to seriously think about it. Is a few years too long to wait to spare the rest of your life?
Trust me..wait until you find the right person and you're old enough.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Most of us will tell you not to do it because it is both unwuse and illegal.
I believe that 18 is the age of consent where you live and as such, the law considers you not to be competent to consent to sex, so he will be guilty of statutory rape, which attracts a custodial sentence and placement on the Sex Offenders' Register. You could be arrested, too.
That's the legal aspect. Can you honestly say that you are ready for pregnancy and all that goes with it (financial and emotional burdens, etc), and the end of your childhood?
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reader, Patriot +, writes (20 April 2011):
I wouldn't know what it is like for a virgin girl to lose it. I only had sex one time, and it ended abruptly because the woman was having some emotional issues about being taken advantage of sexually by some man I never knew. She started crying. Then she locked herself in a bathroom, turned on the water, and started threatening to commit suicide. She kept saying she felt dirty.
This is how I lost my virginity. I was smart enough not to try again. Once you find out what all that using each other for sex is all about by confronting it openly, you don't want to go there. Maybe if it had seemed cooler, I might have made the mistake twice. I don't think you should make the mistake even once.
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reader, Adama  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Yes it hurts. But i'll advise u 2 hold on til u get married first cos we all knw wat guys are up to, he wil b longin 2 test ur body, afta u'v given him ur body, he wil b longin 2 test anoda girl's body and dat's hw he wil dump u. Take note coz am talkin frm experience.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 I am going to let you know that most answers will come in telling you not to do it.
If you choose to please use a condom at the very least because in the end it is your body but you should be careful with your body.
When I first had sex with my gf it was her first time, she did bleed a little and it had to go very slow because it was painful. Hopefull the guy will understand this. Also make sure to fool around alot before hand so that there is no problem about being wet enough. Don't expect too much out of your first time and sex does stop hurting eventually.
I hope this helps and I hope you really think this one through, it's not something you get back if you change your mind later on.
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