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*ala_93
writes: Hello! well im really woried cause im 14 and i had sex 2 weeks ago and my period is supposed to come at the begining of every month in this case nov 1 to nov 9 something like that and it hasnt came yet im starting to get worried but i dont get tired, neither get nausiasu( dont know how to spell( what i mean is vomite and stuff)) and i tend to eat liike 1 forth more than usualy so we werent wearing a condom but i saw that he ejaculated outside but arnt u suposed to feel if he cums inside of u? well im worried if i tell my parents they will "kill" me. and im to scared to go to he pharmacy drugstore whatever cause they know me already. help please! thankyou. xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): tell a CLOSE friend.... or a close close teacher, someone who WONT tell your parents, and ask them for help. preferably a older friend to help you. make sure you get tested, and if it is positive, then it is up to you to keep the baby or get an abortion. if you want an abortion ask an elder (friend or teacher) for guidance to find one.
hope this help!
take care.
Anila
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reader, BreeBree +, writes (15 November 2007):
I am sorry you are in this predicament. You must be very nervous and scared.
You may be pregnant or you may just be having an irregular cycle. Some women don't get nausea or fatigue right away or barely at all throughout the first trimester.
If he ejaculated inside of you or outside of you sperm could still have made its way to your ovum as some sperm is released right before ejaculation. And also, no I can't always tell when my husband comes, so you can't always feel it.
The only way to know if your pregnant is to wait it out (a couple more weeks and don't drink alcohol, etc.) or get a trusted friend or your boyfriend to get the pregnancy test for you. Also, if you have your own credit card (I didn't at 14, but who knows) you may be able to order online from a regular grocery store and the charges won't look conspicuous.
If you are pregnant or even if you aren't. Having sex is a really grown up thing with grown up consequences. Even if your parents will "kill" you, they love you and you have to tell them if you are pregnant. If you have a trusted relative or friend that you can talk to it may be better to talk to them first because your parents emotional levels are going to be pretty hgih.
If you are pregnant you will have to decide whether to keep the baby, put it up for adoption or abort it. Some really tough decisions for you and I am sorry you are under so much stress right now.
Next time make sure you wear protection. And I recommend Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler to help keep track of your cycle better - when you are fertile, when you are not. It may be helpufl in the future. God Bless YOu!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): I have to say that nearly every woman who has had sex has gone through this agonising wait. Stress can actually delay your period.
there is usually pre-ejaculate that is emitted prior to the actual ejaculation, this is why it is so important to wear a condom.
Please do yourself a favor and google planned parenthood. they will help you get birth control for free, give you tons of condoms and get you a test right away. anonymously!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): I don't mean to be harsh, but you are so young. You shouldn't even be having sex. That should be an age where you are hanging out with your friends, going to the movies, working in school, etc. Again, I'm sorry to be so blunt, but you just aren't ready for something as big as that yet. As far as missing your period, I'm not a girl, so if I were to give you an answer, it wouldn't be honest. I'm sorry I couldn't help.
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