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writes:Seriously I might as well just give vital points:-been seeing each other over a year -get along VERY well-when we're together, he treats me as if im the only one that matters-waited a while before having sex-met his brothers, have yet to meet mother-regards me as his partner or equal; literally showed me off and bragged about how wonderful I was-was willing to meet my minister mother (he's an atheist)-has yet to really go at length to what he feels for me-he all of a sudden stopped answering my texts. Now I'm only getting one word messages or silenceI don't think he's cheating but I want to know1) is he going through something that he just doesn't want to tell me just yet?2) I've fallen for him and I want to tell how I feel but when he drops out like this it makes me question my feelings and his. Should I continue?3) is he waiting on me to make a move or is he just a commitment phobe?4) what extend do you think his feelings are?P.S. I can be dense sometimes, so don't worry about hurting my feelings
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Such painful heartbreaks can strike fear into one's soul. That could very well be the cause for his behavior. Perhaps he is afraid that history will repeat itself. Everyone is afraid of getting hurt, show him that his fears should not matter because you will make each other happy.
Write that letter, make sure you make him understand just how strongly you feel about this. Good Luck.
I hope that helps.
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reader, LaDiabla13 +, writes (2 November 2010):
LaDiabla13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGood point
I'm thinking of writing a letter or a poem to break the ice. It's just so obvious when we're together that there's something there. I remember when he felt like we were going too fast he told me about an ex of his that hurt him immensely. Could it be he's afraid of being hurt?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (2 November 2010):
If you let him know how you feel, it could change whatever he is going through right now. For example, if he is doubting his feelings for you, revealing your true feelings for him could shift his heart until it is confident about how it feels about this relationship.
My best guess is that he is doubting, he may have been going through troubling thoughts, asking himself "what if?" questions that may make him doubt the potential of this relationship.
Tell him how you feel and see if that changes anything. If he continues acting the way he does, then I suppose it would be best to move on.
I hope that helps.
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