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writes:My wife and I are separated. I wanted the separation. We both were at fault, but among other things, she was unfaithful. We are going to a marriage counselor.I thought I wouldn't enjoy this time apart from my wife whom I love, but I do. This has shaken up my wife quite a lot, which is very gratifying to say the least, since before the separation she treated me like a nerd whom women would ignore. That has not been true. The opposite is the case. My wife pestered me to tell her about what I've been doing and finally I told her a few things only after she told me so many details of her activities I got angry at her. I just want to continue this way for awhile even though it may undermine my feelings for my wife. Is this immoral of me? By the way, I'm not religious. Reply to this Question
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (28 August 2010):
Well it sounds like she messed up! i would continue your journey and enjoy you! and let be what will be.
Good Luck!
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (28 August 2010):
 you have already moved on.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Even though your having marriage guidance, it doesnt mean you shouldn't be getting on with your own life while it's going on...not necessarilly getting into another relationship because that kind of negates and makes a mockery of the marriage guidance and could also end up hurting someone you may get involved with but you should be exploring yourself in this time apart from your wife.
It's something that is going to take time to come to terms with (the infidelity)and you may find that you need that time for the trust to build back up. Your wife also has to show that she is committed to the marriage if your going to continue.
My advice would be to give yourself more time to decide what lays ahead and how to proceed.
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