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writes:Right well im 17 years old and im still a virgin, i feel like im the only one which in my college there is only a few. Ive had so many oppurtunities to have sex but something keeps stopping me. Im just so scared i dont like my body and i dont really want other people to see it but i feel like im ready to have sex, ive done everything else but sex and im fine with that but soon as its gets brought up i think i do NOT want to be seen naked. I also worry what if im not good? or if it really hurts? im just so worried boys will think im like weird or something i mean i know its good as im not a slag and i can save it for someone i really like, but most of the boys ive talked to are in it for one thing only. I want to be liked for who i am not for what i can give them.So i was just wondering what you all think about it? please can i have some adviceThank you xx
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (10 September 2011):
Im 19 in college and I still have my v-card by choice. Sex is one of the easiest thing on earth so the fact is, having sex donest make you special, waiting for the right person does. Once you loose your v-card its different but for the 1st time i know Im waiting for someone special
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (10 September 2011):
 you have something special your virginity , don't throw it away. it,s the one thing you have you can give as a gift to someone special that will come into your life someday ,don't waste it and have regret,s. that is what a lot of the people that you go to school has done. they have have given them self,s to so many people sex has less meaning. you have something they don't . you can give it away any time you choose. they can not because they have given it , or wasted it. more than likely a lot of them in the future will have regret,s looking back.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (10 September 2011):
 Um - my head meant to type 43-year-old virgin but my fingers got it wrong!
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (10 September 2011):
There are worse things than being a virgin, at whatever age - I've known a 23-year-old virgin who simply wasn't ready until that age; and neither are you.
Maybe the others are lying about their experiences - people do - or if not, why would you want to be just another notch?
You already respect yourself, so just keep on doing that until the time and person are right.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 September 2011):
 By all means, save your love for someone who truly cares about you. Then it will not matter if you are a bit overweight or whatever, his love will be about you. In the meantime, masturbation can provide adequate satisfaction and relief for raging hormones, which is quite natural at your age. What would not be natural or wise is unwanted pregnancy at an early age . . .
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (10 September 2011):
 You are not ready for sex. If you were, nothing would be stopping you and you wouldn't have so many insecurities about yourself. No one's good at sex their first time. And what fun would it be if you were perfect at it every time? Save yourself for someone who loves you and cares about you and is willing to wait for you because it will be a lot better and meaningful than with a one night stand.
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