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writes:Thanks to anyone who reads this, cos I kinda just freaked out!I saw my ex with her a new boyfriend that I didn't know about. It caught me completely off guard and I felt like my chest exploded. She definitely saw me and we've been broken up for a couple of months, but I just felt, I dunno overwhelmed. She was my first girl I ever loved at 20 and seeing her with someone else just crippled me. She led me on and cheated on me but, it was like walking into a train.Arggh, am I over this girl yet? I still find it hard to get interested in new women. I guess everyone's been here, I need some advice. M][KE X
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reader, M][KE +, writes (13 November 2008):
M][KE is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Icelordess, Teacake and especially Sinva. It's good to know other people go through the same crap in life. I really just want to put this girl behind and find someone new. I can't go on being worried that she's gonna walk around the next corner. She wasn't the angel I thought she was, we were just different. And hopefully Teacake you'll be right, when I meet someone new, I wont know what I saw in my ex. Thanks Guys xxx
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reader, SinVA  +, writes (12 November 2008):
I AM IN YOUR EXACT SITUATION.
My first real relationship, my girlfriend, at age 20, led me on and cheated on me, and we broke up a few months ago. She is already out with another guy and it kills me. I know I havn't got over her, but I do feel that things are getting better and there are times I completly forget about her. The trick for me is every time she pops up in my mind I immediatly flush out whatever thought it was and think 'its over, time to move on'. Literally I say that phrase and think the words, and I avoid focusing on whatever thought was about to pop up.
Also I am filling my schedule with tons of activities. I go to the gym, I play sports, I do homework, whatever I need to do to spend time with my mind off of her. I spent the last couple months thinking 'she was the one' and we arn't together and it is only this week that i've begun thinking under the mindset that 'we are different' and 'she is the one missing out'. Yes it sucks, but what can we do, they cheated on us. This is kinda lame but a friend of mine sent me this song on youtube, 'Fuck it' by Eamon, its about getting cheated on, i play it occasionaly and it gets my mind off of this crap. Also, I stopped masturbating hoping that my super horniness will force me to flirt more, and its been working.
Good luck to you man, and if you find a solution, send it to me. You really arn't alone. The fact that somone else is going through what im going through makes me feel a little better.
Remember, FUCK HER, she cheated on you. Once a cheater, always a cheater, let her new boyfriend find that out the hard way.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (12 November 2008):
 This is a normal reaction. Every human goes though the same thing. This doesn't make it any easier for you of course, but I can assure you that you are young enough that in a few years from now you might not even remember her. You aren't interested in other girls because you haven't found the right one. But you will meet many more girls and women in your lifetime. You might also break some hearts yourself. Heartbreak is horrible.
I'm an older gal and I can tell you that there is no way to avoid heartbreak when you take the chance of loving someone. It never makes sense to us that they didn't love us the way we loved them.
No doubt you will one day meet the right girl for you. This is 100% true.
I do hope you find someone soon because it is also true that when you do meet another girl you will question what you ever saw in the other girl!
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