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writes: hya i am just having a few problems my head feels all over the place at the moment i am doing a full time course at college and then hopefully going to uni next year. i also have a part time job with i do on my days off college, but i am feeling a bit unsure now because i have a 3 year old son and i am missing him so much. i feel like i am missing out on other things as well. dont get me wrong i really want to be a midwife and i cant afford to give up my job, but it's just the fact of missing my son that is bothering me. when i first started the course i missed him alot but thought it would get better but instead of that i feel worse. i really don't know what to do. i just feel like crying. please if there is anyone that can gove me some advice that will be great thank you in advance samx Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 December 2006):
 Oooh, sweetness.
"SHANDY POP" had it right. What you're doing is really going to make for a much better life for you and your son. One day your son is really going to admire you for sticking with it and going through college. He's going to look up to you! Education is going to be important in both of your lifes.
I really have to hand it to you for going to school. I think it's great that you're doing it. You've got to keep truckin' along. Your son is going to be so proud of you. Remember, that even though it may not feel like it, you're setting an example for your son in the future.
You know what might help? If you kept a journal for your son to read when he gets older. Write him letters sometimes in a nice journal that you can give to him when he's getting ready to go to college. It might help you feel like you're doing something really great for your son. Even if it's not much just a, "Hi son! I'm doing some homework right now, and it's a real bummer. Oh well. What I'd really like right now is some ice cream..."
Stay in school. Love your son. You can do both at the same time!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): Hi Sam
Well this isnt an easy one. We beat ourselves up if we have kids and go back to work and study and if we don't and stay in the house we still feel some sort of guilt. I'm sure your son will be fine. You are studying for a better future for you and your son. He will benefit in the long run. Stop torturing yourself. You are training in a worthwhile profession and one day you will be so glad you stuck at it. We have all gone off to work, waved goodbye to our kids and felt an pain in the bottom of our stomach, you are not alone.
I wish you well in the future, keep at it, and stop beating yourself up.
Take care
xx
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