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writes:Hey im 16, ive been with my boyfriend nearlly five months, it hasnt really been that long i think. but last nighht he was drunk and told me that he loved me more than anyone else and that he wanted to be with me always. this scares me cause im not ready for a really long relationship and i dont wanna stay in the same one for the rest of my life. my mam met my dad when she was near my age and she always wanted to travel the world but instead she got married and bought a house. i really dont want this to happen to me. i know that my boyfriend feels much stronger about me than i do about him and its scaring me, any help?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 Hey, just because someone tells you that they are in love with you doesn't mean you have to commit with to being with them forever. Don't feel guilty for not feeling as strong, feel guilty for being in a relationship that you're not entirely comfortable/happy with. If you like him, that's great - stay with him, have fun, but don't let him hold you back from doing all the things you want to do. A great guy who loves you that much should encourage you to fulfill your dreams and do whatever makes you happy. Just because you're a couple doesn't mean you have to lose your independence and your life. You can still do all these great things, even with a boyfriend. But, if you don't want to be with him, don't force yourself into a relationship that you're not totally enthusiastic about.
There are tons of great guys out there, who will still be around in as few years when you're ready to settle down. You're young, and you don't have to settle. You've got lots of years left to have fun in. Good luck, sweetness!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 May 2010):
You're still young, and you can do what you want. If you think that he's getting too close and that you don't feel as strongly, then let him go and focus on your own life. Another guy will come along. Another life won't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): I wouldn't worry too much about it, apart from anything else, things have changed a lot since you mum got married, even if you are with someone that doesn't stop anyone doing what they want to do traveling etc, there is no reason why you can't do that together. Just don't lie to him, don't say you love him, just because he tells you. If on the other hand you know that he is just to serious and you know that he isn't the one you then let him go.
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