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Scared of getting toooooo close...

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Question - (2 August 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 August 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *katergirl17 writes:

Well I was like 9 or 10 when I met this boy who was a little younger than me and he moved in to my street. My mum and dad got friendly with his mum and dad so I saw him a lot.

One evening I went to his house and was playing a gGame with him but it led to more and I was scared. We played a dolphin game and things happened that I didn't understand so I lay there in his dark room by myself with him on top off me moving up and down and his dry lips kissed mine... then he snogged me and my top was off...

Now I know it don't sound bad but it is for me for some reason. I was wondering why am I having bad thoughts about this?

Help me Please

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A female reader, crackheadsgonewild United States +, writes (3 August 2009):

Something like that happened to me when I was eight. It was with this boy I knew. I felt so bad about it until I got to middle school and relized that everyone had an experience like that. So many sexual things happened back in my childhood days, and I couldn't understand what was going on. Like once in pre-k, this boy told me to touch his thing. We were like best friends, and we were hanging out in the bushes drinking soda. Then he unbuttoned his pants and showed me his boyhood. lol. I actually ended up touching it, but I didn't know it was anything bad at the time. I even had my first kiss on my 7th birthday. I used to be one helluva playa lol. Ironicaly, I am now 15 years old and still a virgin. I haven't had a boyfriend since the sixth grade. *sigh* Don't worry. You are not the only teen who has ever been a naughty child.

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A female reader, LallaZine United Kingdom +, writes (2 August 2009):

LallaZine agony auntYou say it doesn't sound bad, but it is. You are exactly right to feel that way about it now, that's normal. It was wrong and it sounds quite unsettling. As this boy was so young, It makes me wonder where he got the behaviour from, unless he had just seen something similar - but either way, it is disturbing.

If you are still having bad thoughts about it, it has obviously had a big after affect. Did you always think about it or has it come back to you now like a flashback kind of thing? If you want to talk just drop me a message, because I understand it is probably difficult to talk about openly. Take care and good luck, don't worry.

xx

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