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anonymous
writes:Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now and I know we both love each other but i have started worrying about our relationship because I found out that he is till good friends with his Ex girlfriend and that he even works at the same place with her,im scared that he might start being too friendly with hwr again as she seems to always wanna talk to him, he tells me he loves me every day and I can trust him but I dont know if I can trust her.I dont wanna have to tell him not to talk to her because I dont wanna tell him what to do.What can I do?
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (3 August 2011):
 If you trust him, then you know that he won't let anything happen between them. But it seems that you don't trust him as much as you say you do. He says he loves you and he wants you, so you need to believe him. Start trusting him more and believe that he won't cheat on you. If she tries something with him, all he has to do is walk away and that's what he'll do. You need to believe that also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): just remind yourself that they are EX's for a reason. That means, their relationship has been proven to not work out.
and you're right you shouldn't try to stop him from talking to her. It's his life, and you're not his boss or his mom.
tell him how you feel, but don't tell him what to do. be honest with him that you're uncomfortable with this, but let him decide whether he will keep talking with her or not.
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reader, virgin18 +, writes (3 August 2011):
 "he tells me he loves me every day and I can trust him but I dont know if I can trust her." OMG you and I are in the same situation here, and that quotes explains it all!!! Yes you can trust him, specially if he hasn't done anything to lead you to think you should worry about him in particular, and specially since you know he loves you. BUT the whole not trusting her is very understandable because 1) she was his ex and 2) you don't know her well enough to trust her. So you have all the right to feel the way you do but don't let that ruin your relationship. In my case, i decided not to think about it as much as I used too because it doesn't do you any good. Keep an eye on the things he tells you about her and if they ever go out together to have drinks or whatever just go with him, even better try to become friends with her. But all you can do right now is trust him, while keeping a meaningful eye on her ;). Good luck
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