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writes:{Moderator note: edited for punctuation and such}Me and my husband seperated in January of this year cause of somehthing i supposly done but havent. But he was telling me he wanted to get back together that he missed me and our kids. So well i found out from his facebook that I'm never truly to know about or be on that he dating someone else. Of course i went off and he finally said well we are just friends that i just said that to keep other girls away. Then after talking to some of his family that he has already introduced her to his family and our kids which he told me that i wasn't allowed to do. But i was never going to be with someone else i only wanted him so i asked him again and he finally said yea they were in a relationship and now he is saying well i really don't want to be with her cause of this and that but yet he hasn't dumped her. What should i do i really miss him and we spend a lot of time together
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): the title of your post days it all: you do not have a marriage, she is with another woman, he even introduced her to your kids and his family. this says that he is a total bastard with total disregard for you. so as hard as it is, you need to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): the reason he left was cause i was getting harrassed at work a guy that is now my lead came up behind me and put his hands in my pants pockets and before i realized what he was doing he was working his way in between my legs and i pushed him away and told him to stop it bothered me and i didn't know what to do well a couple of months later when he was my lead he came up behind me again and started at my knee and ran his hand up my inner thigh again i pushed him away and said stop and he did it again that time i told my husband he said it was like i cheated but yet i didn't like it i was scared that i could lose my job over what he had done to me due to the fact i was the only one working bascally have been the only one working the entire time we were together. Our relationship before we seperated was rocky cause i worked all day while he sorta watched the girls he slept while they did what ever and they are 3and4 years old then when i got home he would leave to do whatever and he always spent money like it was nothing me and my girls would go without a lot for him but you have to understand that he was my first my first boyfriend the only guy i ever dated or slept with i always seen myself with just him and since since we have seperated i have given him close to 1000 dollars cause i feel bad that he has nothing im a giving person and he knows it it used to piss him off that i gave my family money know it cool to give it to him even though truly i don't have it to give thanks every body that has answered my question yea i probably move on but its extremely hard
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 June 2010):
This is over. End it now. Don't be a doormat to a man who wants it all.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Hi. First you need to decide if he left you because he genuinely believed you had done something wrong or because he wanted an excuse to leave. Leaving a wife and family is a huge thing to do. And it sounds as if he did that on a whim. Which makes me wonder if he already had someone else lined up. I know how hard it must be for you. But dont be in a rush to have him home again. If you are coping fairly well in other areas, keep him at arms length for a while. Let things end between him and this other woman. It doesnt sound as if they will last much longer. Then if hes keen to come home and you still want him, get answers about his behaviour before you have him back. He seemed to move on very fast and you need to know what his true feelings are for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): Don't beg or ask your ex to come back to you....dont' ask him what his intentions are with the other woman....if he doesn't want to leave her...that action alone speaks VOLUMES.
You didn't give much info on what you were accused of by your husband, nor did you give much info on the dynamics of the relationships before the seperation so it's hard for me to give any advice on the situation other than what I have written so far.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (5 June 2010):
It all sounds so confusing i would let him have her and move on..... i would want a fresh start w/ no excess baggage
it will always be thrown in both faces.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 June 2010):
 You guys are separated for a reason. It is a total disrespect to you and your marriage that he is cheating on you. Why do you want to go back to that??
You want to go back to him because he is the comfortable life. That's understandable, but you will feel *awful* if you go back to him. The life you had before all of this is gone. He wants you back, yet he is still with her and lying to you.
If it were me, it would be over.
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