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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey, I'm writing to ask for advice on an issue im having with my girlfriend. this is our first gay relationship although i've slept with other girls before i met her. we've been together for about a year now. in the beginning she was very nervous and shy about sex, and still is to an extent. when we first began a sexual relationship it would be mostly me initiating sex and once i'd satisfied her, she didn't really seem interested in returning the favour. i kinda put this down to the fact she was new to sex (a virgin before we met) and probably shy, i didnt want to push her. anyways after a few months this kept happening. she would say stuff like "im so frustrated, i cant wait to see you ;)" i would get excited, we'd meet and i'd pleasure her over and over. but then once she was satisfied i was obviously VERY turned on by this point and ready to also receive some pleasure, she would just kinda cuddle me for a bit and not do anything.. on the odd occasion she will do it for me, shes really good at it and im continually telling her how amazing she makes me feel, so i dont know what the problem is?tbh im a really sexual person with a high sex drive, im into dirty texts and keeping the passion alive, but if i ever do send her a mildly suggestive text she kinda dismisses it..advice on what to do!!??
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 You need to clearly express your desires to her. She doesn't get the whole "my turn your turn" thing so you need to educate her about this. It isn't fair to always be the giver or the initiator. It can turn a person into an emotional wreck. Her being new to everything means she probably hasn't had this lesson about love and sex yet. The key is to be open, calm, and non accusing when you talk. Tell her what you feel. Communication is very important in these situations. Actual communication, not hints, or texts, or emails... Talking, preferably fact to face, is your best bet.
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