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writes:I have been married for thirty years. About 20 years ago my husband had a three year relationship with another woman that caused me to have a breakdown. I have had trust issues ever since. He has since had what he says is a friendship with another woman that I have asked him to stop and he says he will but doesn't. Now I find out that the previous woman that he had the three year affair with has emailed him and they are doing some business together that he says is no issue. He didn't tell me, I found out and asked him not to do the business but he did anyway. I cannot get past this and feel that he has no concern for my feelings. I am trying in my mind to justify leaving him because of my trust issues. Please help me!
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
In my book, a person loses all privileges when they cheat. After that, they have to do and not do whatever is needed to keep their partner's trust.
I would confront him and tell him he has no wiggle room. He can make those adjustments or you are gone.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (17 October 2010):
 I don't know why you are with a man you cannot trust. So what if you are in your 50's. Plan your divorce, get the best divorce attorney in your area and file first...ask for what you're do and go enjoy your life without a man who doesn't really care about you or your feelings or the marriage.
This guy will never change, he's back knocking around with a three year affair, I don't think so....leave and don't look back, that's my advice. Life is short, enjoy what's left, travel, date and enjoy being free.
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