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writes:Hi, I'm 15 and I'm really into sports. I play netball for my county and last year, my school netball team did really well @ national schools, so my team was invited to rain with the senior girls @ our school, after school. We did well i guess, cause the team was invited 2 go on a Sports Tour to Barbados w/seniors who are 17 and 18 - we're 14/15.But, whilst we were training, we train like 8 hours a week @ school, there was one training where it woz just me and 1 senior girl, and she woz like, "are you going on the sports tour...?" and so we got really friendly, cause i felt really bad for her as she doesn't fit in at all with her team. Then 3 months later she asked if she could share a hotel room with me on the tour cuase she had heard from loads of people that some of the girls were gonna spike her drink and do "stuff" to her. But I'd already said i was gonna share a room with my friend (my age and team), so I don't know what 2 say. I'm really scared for her, cuase some of the girls on the tour really would do "stuff" to her and arrange "stuff" with the boys there, but I don't wanna let my other friend down. I asked the senior friend what "stuff" they were gonna do and she really wouldn't say - said it was too bad. What she I do? - Do I just ignore her/tell someone?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, red1982 +, writes (7 January 2008):
I really don't think that you should ignore this. It is a blatent case of bullying and you should talk to your coach about it, if they are approachable. If not another teacher would be fine. They know what to do about bullying and will be able to stop anything happening on this trip.
You're too young to take on responsibility for all of this on your own, or try to keep this girl safe, that is the job of the coach and the other adults going on this trip to supervise you, and they can only help if they know what's going on. Teachers are usually the last people to hear about this type of thing.
Don't think of it as 'telling tales' you would feel so guilty if something happened and you hadn't told someone. The teachers involved should keep it confidential as to who told them so you don't need to be worried about that side of things.
Good luck
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reader, hello1 +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Report it, it sounds very dodgy and could get very out of hand with boys and girls there. Truth told, I don't think she should go on this tour
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 January 2008):
You are dealing with rumours or hearsays which may not be true and you could be in big trouble if it did not happen. You should not tell anyone about this matter.
Just tell her to be careful on the tour and be vigilant and keep an eye on your friend always. That is all you can do.
You cannot divulge too much or those people would find out that you are the squealer and you will be in trouble.
If you report to the coach or manager, you may be asking for trouble if what you said did not happen.
If you think you must report, then report it anonymously. Don't report in person. You will make enemies with that group.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Find a way to let her stay in the room with you to help keep her safe. Work it out to three in a room.
This is abuse and bullying, and you need to report it to whoever is in charge. This girl could get raped, get a disease, or worse. Report this.
-Frank B Kermit
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