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writes:I started working at my current job at the beginning of the year. This is my first job after university. I am a fairly open and friendly person and am friendly towards all the people I work with. This has led to one of the men at work to develop a crush on me. He constantly hangs around my work area during the lunch hour and another of my work colleagues told me that he likes me. The problem is that he is married. He has actually been seperated for about 6 months. I thought that his wife had left him. However now I am told that he actually left his wife and kids for me. He thought that I liked him because I talked to him and because his friend saw me staring at him. I did look at him but it was because he has a bright personality and did some interesting things. I did not deliberately encourage him.I have been ignoring him when he comes to my work area but I have now developed feelings for him. However he does have kids and is married though seperated and has been very unhappy for a long time (so I am told).
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 Are you a male or female?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 I would stay as far away from this guy as is humanly possible. And, I really wouldn't trust any rumors flying around.
Get yourself a NICE single man with less baggage..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): What's your question?Don't be flattered that he left his wife for you. You don't know the facts and people might just be telling you that because they think it's fun to create drama at the workplace.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 You don't kow for sure he has left his wife. It could all be rumours. You dont know for sure he has feelings for you. You dont know for sure why he hangs around an area.
You could be imaging something that may cause you embarassment in the long run. Be careful of hear say. You and listen to concrete evidence.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): just for clarity, you are a middle aged male who just finished uni?
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (5 December 2009):
 Lots of rumours here, you have been told he left his wife and children for you, and you have also been told he was unhappy for a long time.
However, there doesnt appear to be any indication he is gay, also you should never put too much faith into rumours, your ID would indicate you are a mature aged person, why are you even considering making any decisions about somebody based on such flimsy evidence?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 December 2009):
Let him sort all his marriage stuff out first before anything happens. It's still a bit early, even though it has been six months, to be making any play. There will still be the divorce and problems with children and such. Also, he hasn't really made any kind of play for you since he split from his wife, so if you are considering anything, make sure you take your time.
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