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*ravybabe
writes:Hey guys, whats the risk of diseases of doing anal sex? by the way im (13). My boyfriend (16) wants vagina sex but im not ready so we do anal and i want to know what risks there are of doing it?Im also really horney all he time and he wants me to have sex with him most days but i havent told my mum i have had it!
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reader, blue_eyes1981 +, writes (29 July 2010):
 I had to read this question twice to make sure that I wasn't seeing things!!
You are underage and your *boyfriend* is, in the eyes of the law commiting rape. Simply because YOU are not old enough to legally give your consent. You can say yes to him but the laws of this country say you are not old enough to do that until you are also 16.
Stop this now before you get hurt and stop hanging out with boys who are too old for you.
Harsh I know but it's the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): So you're not ready for vaginal sex, but you're ready for anal? .. Erm, that makes sense.
In my opinion, anal is something that should come way, way, WAYYY after you have sexual intercourse, (if at all) with someone you're 100% COMFORTABLE with and have been in a relationship with for a while.
I'm very surprised you'd even consider such a thing at 13 years of age. I don't think I even knew what anal meant at that age, let alone doing it. I guess girls are getting a lot more ahead of their years nowadays.
And yes, you should read what Tisha said.
Also, your boyfriend is using you for sex. He's too old for you, you'll find most boys WILL want sex at that age. You really should find somebody your own age to play with - Playing as in hanging out/going round one another's houses, not anal sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): Really now, I do know "younger people" don't like being treated like a child but I assure you. You will have your time, just wait for a few years. Theres a hormone rush I know yes, it isnt like anything you felt before but just wait, its too early for you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 July 2010):
For starers, before we even get to the diseases, your 'boyfriend (or abuser, which is what he is), will get arrested. Then read what Tischa says.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 You are 13! You dhouldn't worry about sex at all least of all anal.
Anal sex may make a person more susceptible to bacterial infection around the anus and rectum. This is because the lining of the rectum is not as heavy as the lining of the vagina, so it is more susceptible to tears. If the anus or rectum does get torn, it does not heal as quickly. Because feces that pass through the rectum contain bacteria, any tear in the lining is at risk of getting infected. Lining tears may lead to other problems such as an anal abscess, which can make transmission of STIs and HIV more likely. This is why unprotected anal sex is often considered riskier than unprotected oral or vaginal sex. The tips above will help you avoid tears and other uncomfortable complications.
In extreme cases, a tear in the lining can develop into a fissure (a larger tear or crack) and may extend outside of the bowel. This is called a fistula and it is a significant medical issue because it allows feces to pass outside of the bowel, and requires major surgery to repair.
PLEASE stick to "petting".
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 July 2010):
 There are risks of STDs whenever you have sex. To your question, I found this link with some great information: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/sexlife/analsex.htm
Technically, you are underage and this kind of sexual contact is illegal.
Anal sex may lead to some problems (which you can read about in the link) if done incorrectly. You ARE using a condom, right?
My recommendation is to stop having sex until you are aware of all the risks and can explain sensibly to your mother that you are ready for sex. She and your father are responsible for your care until you are of age and sneaking around having sex is really not a good sign for you. You may be making poor choices because you want to keep your boyfriend and are at greater risk of pregnancy and STIs in your future due to the age at which you began sexual activity. For safety's sake and your future well-being, you should see a gynecologist now that you are sexually active. http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Sexandyoungpeople/Pages/Sex-and-young-people-hub.aspx
I think your mother would be very disappointed in you. Maybe you should do some more thinking about this before carrying on. I know it's difficult being 'horny' but we all went through that. You can survive it, it's not a terminal condition, lol.
Take care of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): Yeah obiously you can get sexually transmittred diseases anally, you should be using condoms.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 July 2010):
 You run an increased risk of STD transmission for sure. The anus is really designed to be an exit only. If you are both STD free, then the risk is reduced, but it can cause lasting damage as well.
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