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writes:Hi,Just a quick Q.If your partner performs oral on you does it mean that you have to return the favour to her ..and does it have to be during the same love making session? ..or can it wait till the morning?...lol Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Hi original poster of the question!
Ahhhhhh...now I understand, and so pleased you have a relationship with a girlfriend, who's happy with her body and wants share and indulge in this delicious act with you.
No worry's about the lack of experience, huge FUN catching up though, and I'm sure your girlfriend already just loves what you're doing..BUT If you want to get ahead ( excuse the pun) on this one, I recommend ' The low down on going down ' How to give her mind blowing oral sex. It's a great book, written in easy terms, and a must have read for the bedside table ;-)
I provide this book, and the one for females, to my clients, before you wonder what I do, I'm a relationship counsellor with my own consultancy.
Here is the link if interested: http://www.amazon.com/Low-Down-Going-Give-Mind-Blowing/dp/0767916573
ENJOY!!
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi,
Thanks for the replies
@ Dear Jilly my ex g/f of many many years liked to give, but refused to accept. So I thought this was "normal". I dont know why, but she had issues with her bum/thighs/legs and she didnt like me looking "down there" even though I tried to reassure her that all was fine.
My new partner is great. She loves it & tells me that I make her orgasm very quickly :) (little does she realise that I dont have that much experience down there...lol
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reader, lainey23  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Let's just say that if you put off returning the favor too many times, you won't be on the receiving end for very much longer. No woman likes a man who is selfish in bed. It's a chore for us too, Honey!! :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 No, you don't have to return the favor. But if you ever want to hear from her again and don't want to be a selfish jerk, then yes you have to return the favor. And you should probably try to do it during the same session, though if she is tired too it won't kill anyone to wait until morning.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 "On order to receive, you must first give." This quote even applies to oral sex. Pay close attention to Dear Jilly, she always offers great advice.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I typically believe in returning the favor right away. Maybe that's why I love the 69 so much. Sometimes a trade off isn't bad. I'll get you tonight, you get me next time.
Relationships are all about compromise. Talk about it with your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): How old are you..between 41-50, excuse me, and apologies for asking, but I find such a question from a man of that age a little strange. I'm presuming you have had previous relationships, or this is not your first one, so surely previous relationships must have given you some kind of knowledge, bed etiquette at which you have learnt,and have arrived at by your experiences.
I would have thought IF you and your girlfriend are really into each other such things would just follow on naturally. I have this picture in my mind, you and your girlfriend making love, and going through your mind is whether you have to return the compliment there and then....or can she wait to another love making session.
Spontaneity, spontaneity, and more spontaneity. DO and follow your instincts, use your experience as a lover to know and understand your partners needs at the time, and if your tired then say so before, not after she's given you oral...otherwise she may take it as you not being too keen.
Nothing quite like good communication IN and OUT of bed to enjoy great sex, and of course an experienced and sensitive lover who can pre-empt situations like tiredness into something their partner can understand, opposed to feeling neglected..
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): You don't HAVE to. I'm sure she'd appreciate it though... It's polite. But I'm sure you could leave it to the next morning if you're tired.
A simple grin and a: "Your turn tomorrow then?" would help, if you get the impression she is waiting for you to return the favor straight afterwards.
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