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writes: please help! I've been with my boyfriend now for over three years but I'm incredibly frustrated with our situation. He is the only person I have ever been with. Currently I am not working, after recently graduating from University. I'm trying to figure out who I am and what I want from life, and while I know my bf is my best friend and confidante, I feel very lost and a bit scared about our future together. I feel a bit bored with him at times. I used to feel so content and blissful with him, but now I only feel restless and anxious. He has a rapidly receding hairline, and while I feel shallow for thinking this, I sometimes wonder if I could handle him becoming bald. I know that this is not something that should bother me, but since we are so young I find that it does. I get so frustrated about this, because while I truly care for him, this issue about his hair really bothers me. What should I do? And is this really about his hair, or is it more about me being lost in life and taking it out on him?
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reader, pinkey1981  +, writes (5 January 2009):
So what if he goes bald. Its the same guy you fell in love with. Most men if they are gonna go bald start the process before they are even 20. So its not really an old thing its a genetic thing. For the whole restless bit, your gonna hit thirty soon id immagine and almost everyone goes through this "what am i really doing with my life and is this what i want?" plus you just graduated college so you wonder what your gonna do. You need some spice in your life. You guys need go out and have fun. Do things that you would do when you were younger. Date with him. Your starting to lose that complacent content feeling and you wanna change, but i think you will find that if you actually made a change especially in relationships you would more than likely regret it. Like i said, just have fun for a while with him. He may very well welcome it. Its hard to stay content with someone when life itself gets so monotonous and being you just got out of school you definitly know how monotone the last couple of years of school can be.
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Let me make a statement that you may not like but it's the first thing that came to mind. YOU DON"T LOVE THIS GUY!
If you loved HIM, his balding head would be of no significance at all!
And you're letting it take up such enormous proportions in your mind! None of us are physically perfect!
Get on with your life (and find someone with more hair if this is what's so important).
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