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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I've been seeing a guy for 14 months who has started being more and more distant towards me over the past few months. He's 34 and I'm 38, so we're not kids. We started out so great. Until a few months ago, we chatted every single day, then he got distant and cool towards me as I faced some personal issues in my life. Regardless, it's bugging me that he has cooled toward me when we were practically inseparable from the start. I guess I just got used to him being there and it hurts now that he doesn't text or e-mail like he used to do. I did ask him about the cold front via text and e-mail and he actually admitted that my anger and moodiness lately made things "off" for him. He didn't like to deal with that in people. I told him he can't expect things to always be "happy" all the time and not to judge or crucify me. I said I was human and we all get in our moods sometimes, but once the problem is resolved, things will get back to normal. I feel he judged me unfairly and he apologized. However, we're still not communicating. I don't understand it.Everyone is telling me to ignore him and not attempt any contact with him. I have been just giving him his space. I don't like the distance and wish he would just talk about it. I did the best I could while going through my personal crisis and tried never to contact him while angry about things going on in my life as I didn't want to dump on him. I just don't understand how someone who's supposedly cares for you, abandons you when you need them.
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (5 January 2009):
 From his actions, that should tell you a lot.
You have personal issues you need to deal with, he should understand that. He should comfort, support you, ask if you care to talk about it if it helps.
Don't think its you, he just isn't the one for you.
Keep your head up. There's someone out there for you.
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