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*unnie poo
writes:Hey guys I could some real answer plz. First I was a Hindu when I 1st meet my husband he were also Hindu, about a year later he said that he wanted to become a muslim because he found peace their... so I help him all the way and now he is in the islam faith!!!! my problem is I do not believe in the hinduism I see that their is to much lies it in.... about a year ago I told my husband that i see that the islam way of life is true, I believe that I have found the truth of god now... but the thing is about a week or two I changed my mind about it and I said to myself that their is only 1 god and that I am going to believe that I am not going to be part of any religion because man made this.... Am I being wrong for this did I do anything wrong? Do you believe that I must have hurt my husband because I told him that all long the I believe in his god and now I don't??? what should I do plz help me thanks
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 Ah.. read your post again... you will talk to god directly and will not follow any religion... Yep, that works for me... You believe in God, and you follow him directly.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 I say your religion, or lack of it, is your business and not your husband's. Or anybody else's, for that matter.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (15 May 2010):
I'm confused... He is a muslim, and you are not.. I don't really understand what religion you believe in.
Anyway.. I know little about hinduism, but I dont think they believe that only people of the same faith should be married. Under Hinduism, you and your husband are allowed to believe different things.
Islam is slightly different. It is best if you and your husband are both muslims. However, if you don't believe, I don't think this is cause for him to divorce you. Islam is a religion that believes in questioning, thinking and trying to make up your mind to the best of your ability. True Islam does not believe in blind faith. Tell your husband, under Hindu's and Muslim laws you are allowed to take time to find your way to God. If he cannot understand this, and he would throw you aside, then he is not acting as a holy man. It is not for him to decide about what you believe and what religion you should choose. He is placing himself on the same level of God, and this is forbidden.
God (of all religions) understands all, knows all, and is only God who has the right to judge. Live your life as well as you can. Prayer in any religion is good. Look after your husband, your neighbours and your family. Who your god is and what you say to him/her, is only a matter between you and your creator.
Your husband must look after his spirtual life, he can help guide you, but he can not force his beliefs on you. Whatever religion you choose, please study your holy books. There you will find the best bits about your religion and will not listen to human men who don't understand and make up rules to suit themselves.
Tell your husband you believe in God, and say no more about religion. You are still seeking truth from God, and no man on earth can help you with this.
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reader, hunnie poo +, writes (14 May 2010):
hunnie poo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did that but he said that If I don't do it than he will have to leave me.....because he can't live with someone like this...because he said i have seem the true and I am walking away form it!!!!!!!!!!!!! I want us to stay together but I do not know what he will do plz me........i am still the same person
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): just say i beleive in god but in own way
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): You didn't do anything wrong; you simiply had a change of heart and that's ok. Didn't he change his mind? First he believed in the Hindu religion, now he wants to pratice Islam. It's not like you did something sneaky or underhanded you know? You agreed to something that you didn't have time to think about first, and then after you thought about it more clearly and in detail, at that point you changed your mind...this happens to me all the time. I am a thinker so I change my mind often until I have weighed the pros and cons of a situation. Hopefully your husband will understand this.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): Ask, read and learn from your husband & books then may God guide you to the correct path.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): dear sisteryour age is only 22 to 25. at this age ur mind is at learning stage. and is not very strong to take decisions on beliefs. my advice is to stay calm. study bit more about islam and then decide that what u should do. as far as it is concerned that u hurt ur husband feelings, then ask him straight away if he is hurt, then say sorry . and tell him every thing u feel. dont be upset , this is the part of ur age. regardskhurram
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