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writes:Recently my pet died and i was wondering if there is anything that can give me some advice to help me get over him please? Reply to this Question
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reader, instinctt  +, writes (19 January 2009):
i had whisky 13 years,he would of been 14 this year in august.he sadly passed away this morning,i watched him die but he didnt suffer and went straight away,but i keep asking myself what if,ive left him at the vets untill they collect him tomorrow,so we have a cremation,im asking myself what if he hates me because we left him there over night,hes never been with out us ever,then hes got to travel with the vets to be cremated,im worried that he will hate us for doing this to him,we wont recieve him back for ten days,then im asking myself what if he hates us for leaving him that long untill we get him home,,,weve never been with out him,i asked them when they cremate him would all of him be back to us,and not mixed with another beloved pet,,,they said no,but what if,im missing him teribly,i no i couldnt see him before he goes i would like to remember him as he was,i no i wont regret it,he passed away with his family around him and im glad that he did not suffer no more it was quick,but i keep seeing him as he passed away,me and my daughter are devestated,
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): i know how it feels,will my get got ran over a couple of weeks later he dissapeared and im very upset about it i miss him very much he was my best member of the family too i miss him vey much
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): my cat was killed two days ago,she was the world to me and the pain and heartache is still raw.I know time is a healer and i will overcome this,i know some people dont understand what your going through,they think the loss of a pet must be easy but for me it has been as devestating as loosing my family members.I believe one day we will be together again until then i will treasure all the happy memories we had together,keep strong,cry if you need too it helps to let it all out.luv Jo x x x x x x x x x x
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Awwwh Hunni, i kno how it feels! Regardless of how affectionate it was towards you and how long it lived for - You still feel like your heart has broken up into tiny pieces! When anything happens to an animal, you're likely to come to the conclusion that you're to blame! i.e. why wasn't i there when my dog got run over or how could i have left the poor bird dying, when i should have taken it to vets? Don't blame yourself okay hun - I personally think dat is what is upsetting you - i mite be wrong...just an assumption! However, in time hun you will find it easier and easier! Time is the only cure. If you have any pictures of him don't browse through them at this moment in time because it'll just make you feel worse! When you feel that the emotional period has passed then you can look back and re-live the happy memories of when he was alive! And he shall remain in your heart forever. Don't worry about it hun, you'll be fine! All My Love xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Coming to terms with the loss of a pet is very tough and there will be many small reminders each day. In time you will be able to talk about and laugh about your lovely friend and pet - you will know when this time comes. Don't be hard on yourself grieving is normal - it is important that you seek and receive support from all those around you to compensate for the pain. Keep a diary and good advice from the other posts - create a scrapbook or similar. If you had a happy and much loved pet you will have given them a wonderful life - that is something to be very proud of.
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reader, bemused  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Hi sweetie
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I guess you feel like you have lost a friend...right?? Do you have photos of your pet? Could you make up a photo album and call it a memory book? I know the feelings you are feeling. I had to have my horse put down when I was about your age and all these years later...it still hurts. I cried a lot and that is ok. Cry if you need to..you can just go in your room and let the tears flow. I agree with Mandy 7 that what you are feeling is normal and ok.School is out and you have the summer to go through this. Are your friends and family here for you now hun?? Know that the memories will be with you forever. It hurts now and as time goes on it will hurt less and less. Good luck sweetheart and let us know how you are doing.XXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Hi sweetheart,
Oh im so sorry to hear your sad news, ive had lots of cats and a little yorkie dog.. And hunny i no just how you feel my little dog was run over and it is devastating. It will take time to get over loosing your little friend, What I did is put a picture by my bed and i no he is with me all the time, And think of all the lovely memorys I no you will be upset for along time. You will always have those special memorys and as time goes on it wont hurt so much. Just remember you are greiving and it goes in stages, its perfectly natural and in time as i said darling things will get better for you, if you need to talk message me and i'll have a chat if your feeling down ok.. YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU NOW AND GET LOTS OF HUGS FROM THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU SO YOUR NOT ALONE LOTS OF LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, chunkymunky +, writes (8 July 2007):
 im sorry to hear about your pet dying, some people form close attachments to pets and it can feel just like a person dying to them. Therefore theres is nothing in particular you can do to 'get over' your pet dying, however i suggest you put aside a few moments to remember this pet and then continue life as normal as you can. Maybe you could plant something in your garden to remember them? mail me if you like xx and remember everything happens for a reason
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