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writes:Sorry if this story is long XD To summarize what types of birth control are there? and how do I initiate sex without asking for it?My problem dates way back to my old ex he had treated me bad and forced me into giving him a blowjob... I soon dumped him. I was really depressed over the break up even though I knew it was for the best. Then one day I was with a friend at the mall and we caught a guy staring at us and I thought it was her so I said go on I'm fine, she said okay but just to get his number and she came back laughing, I was thinking what happened? she said the guy was eyeing me, I was flattered so I did give him my number. Over the next couple of days me and him texted and chatted over msn. Things were going great and I was falling in love all over again.I had never known his age just knew that he went to my school but the thing is im 16 and he was 18 and graduating this year. He soon asked me out on a date and i was so excited it was amazing the best date i had ever been on. He was smart funny and completely gorgeous...(lol). Soon i trusted and loved him enough to talk about my past relationship with that jerk. He knew i was afraid of doing sexual things and asked if i would like him to do something and i didnt know guys did this kind of thing =.= and he showed me what he could do and it was awesome. Soon I was giving him a blowjobs whenever he would give me an ograsm and things were going great. Last week we passed the 7month mark. He was out of highschool and into university hes living in an appartment with his best buddy. We were fooling around as usual and he asked the question... if i wanted to have sex? i was stuck because ive gotten the impression that sex really hurts the first time and my ex was crazy about it ( i resisted it ). So i told him i wasnt ready and he said its okay your still young. Two days ago he had been studying really hard for a test and he had to cancel our date. So i came over to help him study (lol not really). It was really late and my parents said i could sleep over. I saw him study so hard and i asked if he needed to relax and he said fine but for a bit and we started getting really into it and he asked if i was ready now.... in the heat of the momment i said yes (stupid of me i know.... but i wanted to make him happy).He started reassuring me it was going to hurt a little but he'll be as gentle as he could but i was still kind of scared. As soon as he went in i had intense pain i told him it was hurting and he said okayy so he stopped for a bit and tried again it still hurt but i took it and he finally went in and even though there was still pain it felt kind of good...For about 10 minutes we did this and he said im gonna go really fast so i can cum and it was really gonna hurt, i was pretty exhausted and then when he was doing it the pain kind of went away and it was feeling REALLY good he was at the finishing point and cummed inside the condom and threw it away. He hugged me and kissed me and said your really brave you know that? i was really happy and started crying (partialy because of the pain O_O). So turns out he aced his test (hooray for relaxing). He asked if im okay with sex and i havent given him a straight forward answer yet i basillcaly give him some erms. and uhms. and change the subject. I know hes really loving and caring he does everything for me and with me. Helps me study, takes me out for dinner and even drives me home and to school most of the time. I sort of do want to have sex but im scared of getting pregnant and he said thers a pill i could take but im not quite sure how to get it (let alone ask for it). We've talked about our futures and ive heard his friends talking about him proposing to me when im out of highschool (YAYY!!) i really love him and would love to start a family but not yet. Sorry about the long story lol... i love writing about my life experiences. SO what I'm basically trying to ask is what kinds of pills could I take to control pregnancy? and how do I initiate sex instead of just asking? (thinking about trying it again)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhmm im thinking about the shot and he said hes fine with it and promised me he'll always use a condom (neither of us want to get me pregnant) so im pretty much satisfied thank you!! for all your help
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reader, sexpert  +, writes (26 November 2008):
please find out the sideffects of all birth control methods so that u can choose the right one!
some chemicals in pills n injections make some people unnecessarily obese.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): p.s. this site has lots of great and accurate information about different methods and their effectiveness.. (I know you're in Canada so probably no Planned Parenthood offices there but this information is the same everywhere!)http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htmYou can get lots of information about them from this site, but I would suggest you talk to your doctor about which one would be best for you specifically. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): The pill is the most common and is quite effective when taken properly (same time, every day, never miss a dose). But if you ask me the absolute best is the shot, you get it once every 3 months and it's effective immediately. Its more effective than the pill and you don't have to worry about birth control for 3 whole months after you get it. So as long as you get it on time every 3 months you'll be fine. One thing you should talk to your dr. about though is the side effects, I hear some women get side effects from it but then again that's true for the pill too. There's also IUD's and the patch which are even more effective and last years, but I hink you have to be older or have had at least one kid to get them. You should ask about them too to be sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhmm are some more affective then others? i told him after i find the right one we could "do buisness" ;D . I went to the pharmacy and there are so many should i ask my doctor which one is most effective?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Yes, you can get birth control pills at your local Planned Parenthood, I don't know how much they cost but they're not pricey and you don't need to be over 18 or have your parents with you, you can go in on your own and get them. They also have lots of other info about different birth control methods and they're really helpful... AND, bravo for using a condom! Don't go without one until you're on some type of reliable birth control, even if he pulls out before he reaches climax he can still secrete some pre-ejaculatory fluid inside you which could contain sperm. One more thing, condoms are pretty reliable but definitely do get on the pill too, just in case. I know someone who got pregnant because the condom broke.. It's always good to have something to fall back on if that happens.
I don't mean to scare you with all this stuff!!! There's absolutely nothing wrong with sex, just as long as you're responsible about it. NOW for the fun part! You don't need to ask, if you want to initiate it you can start by kissing him, making out and being real intimate.. Then move your hand down to his penis and start to stroke it, he'll get the idea ;)
Good luck, be safe and have fun!!
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reader, finchy  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 well, he seems like a really nice guy unline that prat of an ex of yours!! you were right to dump him my ex was the exact same
just go to your doctor and ask him for the birth control pill everything is doctor patient confidential :)
as for initiaiting it just go with the flow! everyone is differant!!
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