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writes:He dumps me but says he wants to maintain friends. I told him it would be too hard for me because I wouldn't know what to say to him because I have a lot of anger because of the break-up. As a friend, I tried to just let him know how work was and what I do every few days... and when I ask him how he is doing... he doesn't have much to say but he's fine. Why does he want to be friends if he has nothing to say and it's too hard for me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 November 2008):
 I would say that you're not actually friends. He's trying to make himself feel better about the break up by insisting that you are friends. Right now, what you are is one half of a broken up couple. Maybe in time, your feelings will cool toward a mild indifference, but right now, why bother putting yourself through an uncomfortable conversation every few days just to maintain an illusion?
Just stop calling him for a while. He might keep calling, but I'll bet he'll be relieved that he's off the hook entirely. And you can get on with the rest of your life not having these bad feelings whenever you talk with him.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): maybe he said the friend thing so he wouldn't feel guilty about the break up and be in good terms with you. that's what my ex did
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Don't be friends with him.. Move on with your life.
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (25 November 2008):
to be honest sweetie... i dont think it is possible to be friends with a person that you still have feelings for... recently i was in a similar position and what i did was completly walk away as i found it to hard to contain my feelings... hows can you possibly hold a conversation with a person you love but doesnt love you... it really is too difficult so why put yourself through it...
it was the hardest thing for me to do but i did it... i also said that once these feelings disappear i will diffii wnna be friends with you then but atm its far ro hard and i left it at that... good luck sweetie... make the decision that does you justice
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