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writes:hi,i have a question 4 the girls!,some1 recently said 2 me that a girl will always tend to give thier ex another go before starting somethin with someone new,i am goin through this situation where my ex split up wiv me cuz of home life,basically she is depressed but has said she wants to get back with me when she has sorted her head out,she has said that she still loves me,so was that person right what they said to me,she will give me another go before meeting someone else,1 thing to remember,we didnt end on bad terms,she done it for my sake as she was pushing me away because of her depression!,many thanx
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reader, yummyummy123  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 I agree with pepper
She does love you but she is confused. I gone through the same thing almost. Except it was my boyfriend was pretty depressed an dumped me to sort his issues out. You have got to let them do that... she will come back when she is ready. Just make sure she knows that you are there for her. Sometimes when people are depressed they make themselves feel like they are all alone. At least my boyfriend did. But once he got everything sorted, he came back.
Just give her time :)
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Hi Hunny
If your g/f is depressed then she may feel her unhappiness is affecting your happiness so she will not want to hurt you because she is hurting...And in turn hunny because she is hurting you it makes it worse as it makes her depression worse love, Its not you at all she is thinking of you and trying to sort this out without dragging you down, This means sweetheart she does love you and wants to get well and not hurt you..Its terribly difficult fighting depression and hurting the one you love as you can see it in there face they are hurting because you are, I hope she gets well hunny and I hope you two work this out very soon WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Firstly,In my experience with partners with depression. They do suck you down. There is nothing you can say or do to make them better. They do have to do it by themselves. So your gf saying that she needed time to sort her head out was probably the right way to go.
The question is.
Do you love her enough to wait for her?
and be prepared for her to say that she actually doesn't want to get back together.
I think you should perhaps decide whether you are commited enough to wait for her. regardless of her answer?
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