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writes:Okay, so me and my best friend got into a huge fight last friday. She was making me look like an idiot in school to make herself look better around this guy that were both talk to. I got mad and told her sister who had picked up the phone that I didn't want to go to her shore house because i had to go to my grandmas house for the memorial weekend. (in reality, my mom told me she wanted me to go and since i was mad at my friend, i just decided to go to my grandma's house instead.)Anyways, my friend got mad at me and called me all these nasty things so i told her i was mad about her making me look like a fool and she said she tries not to, but its hard.She made a few shots about how imature i am and that i dont have any other friends. This is when i made a shot about her being a slut. All in all, i just feel terrible about my friend. I want to tell her that im sorry and that she shouldnt be mad because i've never bailed out on her before. What should i say? Any suggestions?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Just tell her that you are truly sorry and offer her a treat.
It does not matter if she was wrong and you were right.
When you admit that you were wrong ,it shows your maturity.
What is important is the final results.
You want to go back to the same relationship as before.
If that is your intentions to be friends with her again.
Be the first to extend your hands of friendship to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): |First rule of friendship
YOU NEVER NEVER put a guy before your best friend.
my best friends ex (hot hot hot guy!!!) hit on me and no matter how much i wanted to say YES i couldnt.
why?
because men come and go, best friends are there for life.
SHE should be the one apologising to you!
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reader, lushlass93  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 you should try and talk to your friend but you have to remember that she has to aplogise to because she did kind of start it and you need and apiligy yes you have said alot of bad things but so did she and she has made you feel bad so you need to talk things out and make her understand how you feel and ypu shuold try and find a way of you both figuring how to be nicer to each other
god luckxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): She is not a real friend!That wanch was wrong 4 that.I KNOW she wouldn't like it if u did that 2 her,now would she?The #1 rule of being a best friend is:NEVER put a boy B4 your best friend!She should b the 1 2 apologize.U should ask her do she think she was wrong 4 what she did?If she answers no,then irl just let her go!
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reader, a-g55 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Well a lot of people are going to tell you that you should just sit down sort it out like adults but what are u going to say that’s going to illustrate the way she has made you feel. You have just been made to look like a fool and now your in the position where its all got a bit out of hand and u don’t know what to say to make things right again. Now your best friends so you could just literally sit there and do nothing and get on with school and sooner or later you will make up again regardless. There shouldn’t be that doubt in your mind, it happens to millions every single day and nobody every falls out and just cuts u out of their life permanently forever. Now with that in mind you can do absolutely anything you want however bad it is and you still make up friends again. So with that in mind now you can illustrate the way you feel by doing nothing more or nothing less to what she has just done to you and make sure that she is made to look like a fool and yeah you might throw a few more nasty comments but she now feels what you have felt so making up again is a lot easier and you don’t really say anything. The words speak themselves. Or you could you could wait a couple of days give her a call and ask her if she wants to chat without being abusive and see how that goes. Sometimes its not what you say its how you say it so maybe when you do talk to her you want to use your voice and wording effectively and skilfully to reason with her. Either way your going to be friends again by this time next week.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Well it sounds like a tiny bit of jealousy. You both 'like' the guy right, seems like she wants him more.
I don't think she weighs up to much of a friend. She shouldn't have made you look like an idiot, and shouldn't have put you down with comments about your immaturity. Maybe, you shouldn't have come back with the feisty comment of her being a slut.
I think you're right about staying away for a little while, give her time to think it over. If she finds it hard to not poke jibes at you, then maybe reconsider your choice in friends, real friends don't need to poke fun at their friends, mine don't! I can't help feeling that you're a great person and you deserve so much better, a friend that wont make fun of you.
You've really got nothing to apologize to her about, she needs to say she's sorry to you, and because you've never bailed on her before, she knows that you're just going to take what ever she does and says, she doesn't expect you to do anything and she's taking complete advantage of your good nature, she may seem like a good friend from inside the friendship, but looking in from the outside, she seems like a person to steer clear from, sorry!
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