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writes:Hello there. I am hoping my question does not come off as offensive or racist at all. It's just that I have been dating my boyfriend almost a year now; he is caucasian (blonde hair, blue eyes) while I am asian. This has always made me a bit self conscious as I have noticed that most of the girls he finds attractive are all caucasian. And i know that beauty is a matter of opinion, but out of curiosity, do most caucasian guys prefer to date their own race? Do they find asian women attractive? Reply to this Question
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reader, mytwocents  +, writes (12 May 2009):
 I've lived a life of interracial coupling--personally AND all around me. I've dated within my own race very little, in fact, and many of my friends and acquaintances have MARRIED outside of their race. Many of the girls that I've dated (even long-term) have, themselves, been of mixed race. I think this is the urban experience in the United States these days, and I think it's making its way to other parts of my country and to others. I think dating within your race can sometimes seem simpler, since people of the same race tend to have fewer "cultural" conflicts and misunderstandings. However, I think that people are--to an increasing degree--finding that the benefits far outweigh the costs (especially since the stigma around interracial couples has eroded considerably over the years).
Where I live, Asian women dating Caucasian men is EXTREMELY common. Many of my white male friends date (or want to date) Asian girls. In fact, it's kind of funny how often I see it. It seems like the white guys all of sudden REALLY like the Asian girls, and vice-versa. I think it's safe to assume they date each other because they find each other attractive. I've also noticed a lot of Latin American women with Caucasian men. I've theorized a lot why these combinations seem to happen so often, but whatever it is, it benefits people like me who are MORE than happy to scoop up the spare Caucasian girls. Thank you very much.
I'm being a little silly and don't mean this racist, but think of it this way: say your family ran the neighborhood hamburger joint when you were growing up, and all you saw most of your youth was hamburgers. As a kid, you ate them every night. But one day, when you get a little older, you walk down a few blocks and discover a noodle place. You still like hamburgers, because they're delicious and familiar, but those noodles look and smell irresistible through the window. What is that food people are eating in there? You have to try it.
Your neighborhood friends and family tell you that you should only eat hamburgers because that's what you grew up with. But eventually, you can't take it anymore. You decide to you just TRY out the noodle place. When you do, it's like nothing you’ve tasted before, and you’re hooked. Forget hamburgers.
One version or another of that silly story is what's happened to your boyfriend, to me, and to all these white guys I see walking around with Asian girls wrapped around them. We've discovered other, delicious flavors of people. Be happy and enjoy it.
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reader, mikefromms +, writes (12 May 2009):
It depends on how they were raised. No offense, but I think in the long run each race should stick to their own race when it come to relationship and marriage. I know Hollywood is pushing the other way very hard because they think this will end racial differences. This is a deep subject. Of course, it is up to you and him.
I don't date outside of my race. Too many issues involved and it does get more difficult as time goes by. Children suffer and no one can deny this. As you said, I hope I don't sound racist either.
Good luck to you young lady whatever your future holds with him.
Mikefromms
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): I think that we all appreciate most races, and with bollywood around nowadays i feel that we appreciate Indian women.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (12 May 2009):
it depends on the man, though you have to consider if you are living in an area or country where caucasians are in the majority then by the law of averages he might see more caucasian women than asian women in the first place! asian woomen are very attractive anyway!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Asian girls are extreamly attractive
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