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writes:I first met my girlfriend in high school at a party and then we didn't talk until this year when she wished me a happy birthday via Facebook. We started hanging out more often after I got her a job at my work, which made work so much fun! We got to know each other really well and started liking each other. We worked together for about a month and then started seeing each other exclusively for a month and then we became official boy friend/ girl friend for 3 months. She told me all this stuff like I was the nicest guy she's ever gone out with and whatever. We were best friends to sum it all up.She's super outgoing and so fun to be around, but then out of the blue this new guy started talking to her at work (she's 19 and he's a 28 year old pro hockey player). She wouldn't stop talking to him and eventually told me I was too controlling because I didn't like her texting him every minute when we hung out. She told me I was controlling and pretty much lost feeling for me. She fell for the guy and now she is being so mean and rude to me. She's trying to make me beyond jealous. Everyone I talked to said she's being a crazy psycho ex girlfriend. She keeps messing with me when she doesn't have to. I want to know: If she liked me so much, then found a new guy that she liked, and then it was her idea to break up, why is she being incredibly mean to me now that we're not together??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE: So I tried asking her why she's been yelling at me. I never hurt her... A few minutes later her new 'bf' texted me back asking if I got the memo to never talk to her again. So, I figured I'm going to delete her from everything and if I see her again, she'll be another face in the crowd. Thanks for the help!
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (30 November 2010):
 It's not you its her. You did nothing wrong so ignore her. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's 19 and I'm 22. I know we only dated for 3 or so months but she's told me she is still friends with her ex's. I have no clue how any of her ex's are friends with her if she acted this way with them or why i get the special treatment. I NEVER CHEATED. I am confused and she hasn't responded said anything further. Thanks for the help!!
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (29 November 2010):
many girls like to make thier spouses jeallous for various reasons, like the feeling of them being loved or the attention they'll get...etc
try to befriend another girl and see her reactions
wich i suppose would be one of the following
1-)if she didnt REALY mind then mostly she is most caring
for that other guy
2-)if she became jeallous and stopped or atleast slowed down very much wiht that other guy that means that she most probably after you and all what she is get you more into her and she wants more attention from you
3-) if she continued runing after you yet didnt REALY stop
chasing that other guy
then she is an attention freak and she most probably suffers from a persoanlity dissorder
finally narccisistic histrionic personalities or oftenly fun to be with at the begining yet they care for no one but them selfs and the deeply troubled desires
Good Luck
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (29 November 2010):
 A lot of "hot" girls, or "free-spirited" types will conduct all of their relationships in the exact manner your ex attempted. Meaning, they are free to talk to (and go out with) anyone else they want. Some try to hide it, others don't.
If you express a problem with it, you become the bad guy instantly. And you will be punished. If you let it go, you are in a relationship - temporarily. Many guys go along with this "your lucky to have me" treatment so when you complained, it put her actions in a cheap light.
-She is probably lashing out at you for making her feel self-conscious and upsetting her "mojo."
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (29 November 2010):
Some girls are just like that. They dont have to still have feelings for you to want you to realize what u've lost, make you see that they are fine without you, etc. They want you jealous, they want to show they dont need you. If you show it effects you it gives them motivation. You could try taking her to the side and explaining that you are fine without her, uve moved on and she should do the same. because by spending her time playing this "psycho ex gf" role shows she hasnt gotten over the situation despite what she says. And just walk away. Dont let her ramble on about how she is over it or whatever becuase if she was she wouldnt act this way. Her attitude is typical of a highschool break up. Your can ignore it and hope it goes away. Face it and hope she gets the picture. Or keep acting how you are, but something you are
doing is keeping her motivated.
Good Luck!
Morgan
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