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writes:Hi,I first met my west african 'girlfriend' in a lap dancing club last year (2009). Chatted a lot before anything and have to say I respected her honesty. That was that and 2010 I returned to the same club and guess what! she was there... I had a few dances, VIP room etc etc and asked her for her number to which without hesitation she gave me. Crikes she didn't even have to check her number when she gave me it!!.... anyway an hour after the club closed she called me and wanted my adress. She tuned up, she fucked me stupid and then in the morning i took her home via a £150 stop at the cash machine!!... Four months later I'm her boyfriend and having sex with her for free but becoming ever more wrapped up in what I can only describe as fantasy. I worry because i have real feelings for her but remain slightly detatched from her because of the fact that she works as a prostitute. She's always testing my feelings for her. She will ask me to come over and fuck her crazy, then the next day she will accuse me of only wanting her for sex!!!!....I love her and care about her but have to keep reminding myself that she has sex with other customers too and even comments from customers about their experiences do parallel with my own intimate moments with her .It's all starting to make me hate her so then I think fuck it just fuck her under the title 'Boyfriend' if thats what she wants....I love her but it's difficult when you have to get up out of bed on a saturday morning to let some client take your place... She gets upset if that happens and i piss off out for the day..... cripes!!whats wrong with her...?Please Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess not everyone is looking for the same thing and sometimes different styles meet and then clash!...Now for me respect is key and I know no matter what, she would come first....priorities !!... She plays games tho when she talks about clients it pisses me off and ok i might end up walking away cos i dont want to hear that. I want her but not her childish bullshit you know and everyone needs a companion and that is fact.....maybe she not ready for that but chemistry told her how and who i was right from the start and it might have been raw attraction for me initially but i know it was not that way for her cos she once said i'm not in her class....ouch!! hmmmm whatever!....
Its hard readers you know so be sensitive please x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): OK...Thanks for the input everyone ...
I guess not everyone is looking for the same thing and sometimes different styles meet and then clash!...Now for me respect is key and I know no matter what, she would come first....priorities !!... She plays games tho when she talks about clients it pisses me off and ok i might end up walking away cos i dont want to hear that. I want her but not her childish bullshit you know and everyone needs a companion and that is fact.....maybe she not ready for that but chemistry told her how and who i was right from the start and it might have been raw attraction for me initially but i know it was not that way for her cos she once said i'm not in her class....ouch!! hmmmm whatever!....
Its hard readers you know so be sensitive please x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): "I don't mind her working at all but what is wrong is when you never know when you might have to leave your own bed and lover to let someone else in. Is that fair to say?"
It sounds like she works out of her apt and not a hotel. Also, keep in mind most ladies keep their own schedule and (many) have to take the work when it's there. If you accept her the way you're saying, then either you have to talk with her about the bed-situation or have to simply accept it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the posts...
Kama = Yeah it was tough to accept but accept I do. I even take her now to out calls.
Everyone else = "whats wrong with her" ....I don't mind her working at all but what is wrong is when you never know when you might have to leave your own bed and lover to let someone else in. Is that fair to say?
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reader, Kama  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 It sounds like you are having trouble with the way she was when you got with her, and now still is (sex work). But that doesn't sounds like what you are asking about here. Who knows why she is testing you constantly. Maybe if you try and really get emotionally close to her you could find out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): If she's with you and there's no transaction of money, it sounds real to me. But as others have said, it could also be she has trust and insecurity issues because of what she does for a living. If you truly want to be with her and her boyfriend, you have to show her how much she means to you OUTSIDE of the bedroom. And as for dating a prostitute, not every man can do it. It's her job and you have to accept that. If you cannot, then it's best you move on before it drives you crazy and/or breaks your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): Hi it doesnt sound as if you are coping very well with your gf's chosen "career". And its not surprising really.As she was a hooker when you met, it doesnt seem fair to make an issue of it now. If you cant handle it, it would be better for you both if you were honest about how its making you feel and ask her to stop. If she doesnt want to, then seek a regular gf elsewhere.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Nothing wrong with her.. she has a job, and then she has a home life... she's in the sex business and she needs to be clear when she's working and when she's not.
Dating a sex worker is very hard. You need to be clear that you are a boyfriend and not a client and make sure you treat her with love and respect, or leave her alone and stop messing with her head.
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reader, chinana  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Problem could be she really doesn't expect a guy to love her because she is a prostitute and she has probably 'conditioned' her mind to think his way - That men just want sex from her but in your case its not true. Have you ever really considered spending quality time with her and not ending up in bed together, maybe when you show her that its not just the sex you want from her she would stop treating you like a 'client'. And besides lets say she did believe you would she be willing to walk away from her profession???
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