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writes:Sort of vaguely related to relationships, so I figure I'd ask here anyway.I'm 19 and a Freshmen in college, my boyfriend is 18 and a Senior in high school. His senior prom is this Saturday the 25. I am, as his girlfriend, obviously going with him. I have a pretty dress and everything. BUT...Firstly, I'm sort of embarrassed going to Prom because I already graduated from that school and I feel a little silly hanging out with his grade because they were always younger than me in school. I don't see my boyfriend as younger though, because he's smarter and more mature than me... but most of the people in his grade are immature idiots and I feel retarded around them. You know that kid who graduated but never left, the person everyone hates, I don't want to be that kid. That's not really the problem though, I just wanted to establish that I'm already uneasy...PLUSI can't dance. I always skipped the school dances when I was a student and now I have no idea how to dance. I regret not taking dancing lessons with my parents. I want to kick my 12 yr old self in the butthole...I'm uncoordinated, jerky, and my joints aren't the best (they snap, crackle, and pop when I move). I'm also completely terrified of dancing. I have a minor phobia of it. I went to MY senior prom last year and when Alec (my boy) asked me to dance I almost had a heart attack. He tried to pull me onto the dance floor and I almost burst into tears...So, I have two days until prom and I'm still not comfortable dancing. I like doing it alone in my room, but put me in a situation which is ALREADY awkward and I just feel like an idiot. I'm desperate, really. Slow dances aren't a problem, I just grab him, grind a little and SWAY a lot and we're set, but like...upbeat songs, rap songs? How in the world!? I hurt myself just WALKING places let alone dancing in 4inch heels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): i feel the same way am extremely shy and am terrified of goin to parties and dances jus cause of dancing,but jus copy someone else dancing and make it look like u kno what ur doin lol works every time
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reader, CandyCakes +, writes (24 April 2009):
CandyCakes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. I talked with my boy and I feel better about it. He told me we don't have to dance every dance, and that the ones we do dance to we can dance together (ie. like slow dancing but to peppier songs). I like that.
We danced to Abba in his basment for 30min and I feel much more confident. I might be a little worried when I get to prom but it think it will be ok.
I'm trading out my 4inch stilettos for 5.5 inch platforms but no one will see them under my skirts because I'm short and my dress was designed for a taller lady. It'll be easier to dance in those.
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reader, mrs.smith81608 +, writes (23 April 2009):
Girl, take those shoes off and HAVE FUN! It's ok to act immature sometimes! Your guy will love it as well. I was kinda the girl who had a little bit of rhythm, but not much. LOL My husband suffers from "white boy syndrome" as well-LOL previous replier! But get us together and we don't care-we HAVE fun! Just shake what your mama gave ya and let loose! You won't be the graduate who never left, trust me!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Oh sweety, dont even sweat that stuff!!!!
Listen I suffer from "White Man's Disease" myself. when I dance, you should see the horror on people's faces...
Ive actually had someone yell at me "FIRE BAD! FIRE BAD FRANKENSTIEN!!"
Now I dance just to piss people off now...lol
But in all seriousness, you should not feel bad about not only returning to your alma mater, but Revel in it. as far as the dancing, who wants to boogie at the prom anyway! Dont you want to be close to your man?...cheek to cheek?...just dance the slow ones. everyone will be so into themselves(its Prom, right?) that they wont notice if you arent on the dance floor for every fast number. People you know are going to want to talk to you and ask you about college and other cools stuff.
I would not even worry about it...you have too much to look forward to.
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