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writes:Okay so me and my gf, who i love very much, were over my house one day. We were in the basement watching a movie cuddling and making out a little when she teased me down into her pants. well long story short i fingered her and thats it, she didnt give me a hand job, i didnt ejaculate, maybe pre-cum but i didnt stick my hands down my pants. Everything was good la la la.Well now its a month later and she has been complaining of sore breasts, she has been really sick lately and eating a little more than usual. She is scared outta her mind thinking she is pregnant. She is planning on taking a HPT this weekend for sure. I try to calm her down bbut she says i dont understand. can she be pregnant? i mean i know she can but the last time i masturbated before she came over was the night before and i even took a shower before she came over the next day, almost 24 hours!plz help
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (22 March 2009):
 At her age she should regularly be seeing a gynocologist, and if she's having sex, or thinking about it, then getting on the birth control pill will help her periods regulate, so she won't have to freak out any more.
I've never heard of seasonal periods. Honestly, have her tell her mom to take her to the doctor. Even if she stays a virgin for the rest of her life, having regular periods will take away so much stress. She should get on the pill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys, i talked to her last month and calmed her down so she didnt take the HPT.
but now she missed her period, she is 16 and has been having her periods since she was around 13 so idk what to think.
she apparently always misses her periods over the summer though she told me. So maybe her periods are still settling in?
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reader, teresalvswhit +, writes (11 March 2009):
don't worry I'm 15 and have done the same thing. she's not pregnant, she could just be having growing pain in her breast (which means her boobs are getting bigger)try to have her see a doctor
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reader, cheerleading is my life +, writes (28 February 2009):
Hey, before me and my bf had sex..we messed around (him naked me in bra and thong, he came on my underware, and I thought I was prego cuz I didn't have my period 4 2 months so maybe she's stressed and isn't having her period...Ps I never cheated on my bf but you guys woulda thought I did since we didn't have sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers, i have read all this stuff and tried telling her but she seems paranoid.
As for her cheating on me, i highly highly highly doubt it, that was the farthest we have gone together in 2 months since we've gone out. Plus were either texting or talking constantly, so unless shes having sex and sending me a text every 3 minutes while they're doin it, i dont think she cheated.
But she did seem more relaxed today for some reason, i think her period may start at the end of this week so maybe shes getting it early and its relieveing stress.
again thank you very much everyone!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 February 2009):
Unless you came on your hand and then fingered her, I am 99.999999% sure she is not pregnant, at least not by you!
For how young you are (13-15), she could just be having normal hormonal changes from puberty. Let her take the test, just so you two have some peace of mind. And for pete's sake! Don't have sex with her! If she is pregnant, I'm sure we all know who is NOT the father! This girl is causing you some grief!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): Actually, sperm can survive out in the open air for as long as a few hours. "A few hours" depends on the environment. If it's a moist place like sub-tropical and tropical regions, sperm and the semen in which it swims around in can live for a few hours in the open air. In dryer regions like Canada, it may dry up faster and die faster.
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reader, eringreen09 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 sperm dies when its out in the air, so if you had some on you hand even from a few hours earlier, theres no way your soldiers would still be kickin. it is physically impossible (considering the circumstances) that she couldve gotten pregnant from that.
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reader, Confined +, writes (25 February 2009):
I no it might be kinda rude but did she cheat on you? That's possible I don't no your relationmship but if you didn't have sex with her than she can't be prego and she could just have food poisoning or something.
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reader, killadavill +, writes (25 February 2009):
you definatly can't get someone pregnant if u just fingering...unless you do it on purpose...mayb that's even impossiable....dont worry you will be fine
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Let her take the test, but I'm sure it will be negative! Don't panic.
And for everyones sake don't have sex with her.... Can you imagine the paranoia?
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (25 February 2009):
 I agree with didda and probably gonna sound like a broken record since my answer is after hers, but -
Unless if you touched yourself first and then touched her and accidentally had semen on your fingers when you touched her, you have absolutely nothing to be worried about.
I get sore breasts, really sick and have a strange appetite (I always have to have chocolate) right before my period, so I'm guessing that's it. If she is your age (either 13, 14, or 15) she may be just starting her period and that's why she's freaking out cause she doesn't know what it is.
Calm down, you have 99.9% nothing to be worried about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): If she is pregnant, i'm sorry. But it is not because of you fingering her. The stuff in your cum that gets the girl pregnant...Dies in air. It takes about.. 2.5 seconds to die off. So if she is pregnant...Sorry dude. It's not yours. Your woman cheated on you with another guyyyy.
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reader, Lunchbox +, writes (25 February 2009):
unless you have super powers and can make sperm come out your fingers, then she is pregnant. Other than that you can just chill on this subject. I hope this makes you realize though that when you do began to have intercourse to always protect yourself.
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reader, polk9632 +, writes (25 February 2009):
no you cant get pregnet by getting fingered dont worry after she takes the test you can relax but she is not trust me im a girl and have gotten the same thing done to me so yea
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reader, Rblivingstone +, writes (25 February 2009):
My friend, sperm can live for upto 48 hours, so there is the possibilty, however it is very unlikely. As time increases the probability goes down, and the amount that could have been introduced it is unlikely that is how she could have gotten into this situation. It may be that she has a hysterical pregnancy,her body is actually fine it is just going through normal teenage changes or that she really is pregnant from another event. If that is the case then you will want to think back to see if there is another incidence, from which you could be the father. If not you may not be.
A word of advice from somebody a little older: You don't want to mess around with sexual encounters like this at your age. As it is posted above. And you do not want to mess around with girls that let you touch them in those ways. You are messing with powerful emotions, and it is quite possible that if she let's you touch her, she will let others as well. This will only cause you heart ache. In fact that may be why she is so scared she may not be able to pinpoint who is the father. At such early ages it just isn't smart to be sexually active.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, that is what i have been telling her all along. but i mean she has had these symptoms all month, not just lately.....
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reader, didda123 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Well it is impossible so please stop worrying over this.
If there has been no contact other than your finger which has been nowhere near any sperm then no worries- comprendre thats don't worry!
If you had some sperm on your finger i would think it was possible but the odds would be very low.
Sore breasts will more than likely be due to her period being due but i think your mind is working overtime and i know it can at times like these, she is eating more, she is feeling sick but when we are due a period sometimes women crave certain foods and some can be really poorly with PMS.
She is just young and probably unsure of her body and monthly cycle just yet and it is even possible for her cycle to be a little unpredictable at first before it eventually settles into a more regular pattern.
I would get a pregnancy test tomorrow just to put her mind at rest it will be worth it for the peace of mind it will bring.
Take care both of you x
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reader, rlcmiami +, writes (25 February 2009):
Poor poor young thing. There is NO way she is pregnant.
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