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writes:SO im with my bf a year now n realized im pregnant oh but shit hes from brazil and we live in ireland and hes only on a student visa we had no plan 4 this and yes were happy just thing is were scared out of our wits were going to be separated we dont want to get married yet cause its too early and i dont want people to think im getting married just so he can stay here so do you think they can send him home ? i cant move to brazil cos its just too far n the country is very poor i want more for my babys life what can i do ??????? Reply to this Question
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reader, gemerson@85 +, writes (15 January 2011):
gemerson@85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi my bf and i are really in love and happy we are pregnant also my child will have a great life as i work 4 myself and have a great income yes we had sex and this happened but i dont regret it but can u help who u fall in love with even if hes from across the globe if we need to be married we will but were just seen if we need to be married in order to stay together thanks every1 for your answers xxxxx gem xxxxxx
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reader, golddigger99  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 This is a tough one. Unfortunately I don't have any experience in the customs of Ireland or Brazil, so I can't help you out much there. I do however know, that when you have sex, you are taking the risk of getting pregnant. If you are responsible enough to have sex, then you should be responsible enough to take care of the consequences. Should the child suffer because you two were not prepared? NO. The child deserves both a mother and a father. How this will happen, I don't know. All I can say I guess is take responsibility, whether it be marriage or an extension of his visa, whatever it is, make sure it is for the good of the child because you two are now second in line of what to care for. Good Luck and Congratulations!
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reader, LaLaLoo123  +, writes (15 January 2011):
Well, you would have to talk to him about it because if he wants to be involved in your child's life then he would want the best like you do. Good Luck!X
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reader, Tasha_Baybee +, writes (15 January 2011):
I think that you have to think of what you really want because you are pregnant wether you like it or not Hun, what has your partner said to all of this? I think you need to sit down with him and talk about possibilities. I know plenty of woman who would love to be in your shoes to be pregnant and I am one of they ladies. You have a responsibility now and if you want this baby (which by the looks of it you do) think of what is right for him/her.
Good luck and all the best for the future! Let me know how it goes :) x
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