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writes:Ok, I'm 22 and pregnant with twins. I also hav a 8 year old son. Right now my life is crazy,and I'm hoping not 2 lose my mind. My boyfriend at first was there 4 me. Now that I'm 4 months pregnant he jus doesn't care at all. He's cheating, doesn't call 2 c if were ok, doesn't ask if we hav ate, won't even go 2 any of the doc appts. We hav been 2gether 4 almost 2 years and I told him I didn't want 2 b a single mom again! 2 make matters worst 2 twins. It really hurts my feelings and I find myself crying everyday. I don't want 2 endanger the babies with all the stress and I hate my son has 2 c this. I hate his guts and I don't want him back,nor do I really even want him 2 b in are kids lives. How do I get over all the hurt and pain so I can hav a healthly life and pregnancy? Also how should I deal with him cause I know that sum time later he will b trying 2 come back in are lives? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 September 2010):
 Good for you! Concentrate on making you, your son, and your babies happy he will pay up in due time that's the only support you need from him. There is other people in your life that will give you the love and support you need, they're friends and family. I think everything is going to be ok for you from now on!
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reader, Veronicalovingmybabies +, writes (4 September 2010):
Veronicalovingmybabies is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst I would like to say thank you to the people who took time out to read what's going on with me and care enough to help me figure things out. Well, the first thing I did was dryed my eyes and I haven't cryed out of saddness since! Its been happy tears! thanking god my babies are fine and my lil big man ( my son) is doing great. You know happy about the blessings and the fact that I'm no longer dealing with the hurt of wondering why he didn't want to be here with us. One thing I've realize is what's understood doesn't hav to be explained. Since then we haven't talked at all and I he's at risk of going to jail and having to do 2 years. Know please know that I would never wish bad on anyone but I really couldn't make up my mind to whether I was gonna try to give him a chance to c his children or say no and go right to child support. Well I guess god is making his mind for me. Everything happens for a reason and I always said that I needed time to get the kids 2gether and just move where he won't know where I am. Well if he gos to jail I will be able to do that. And u know that jus cause sum people can hav kids doesn't make them parents. I also packed me and my son sum things and went to stay with family for a few days. Jus to get away and take my mind off of things. So now when I go back home 2morrow I will hav a clear head and feel so much better. Oh yea and the best part of this week is that I started to feel my babies move inside me! So wonderful! So with that being said I know I will hav sum more not so good days and I will keep in touch but with the help of u good people I feel so much better,wiser,and stronger! I'm ready! Thank u!
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reader, Dalmatian +, writes (30 August 2010):
Yes, please concentrate on the soon to be three beautiful
children. See an attorney and find out what your rights are
and then let the state track him down for support etc.
In my state they will really go after them. Twins will be
such a gift from G-d that you will never regret your decision to have them. See that attorney!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
Congrats on twins, they're more than a handful. You don't want to be a single mother again, so he's left you before? Tell him that you're done with his cheating ways and that since he doesn't care you the next time you will be seeing him is in court for child support. Let the state get this dead beat dad. Your son and twins don't deserve the stress he is causing you this toxic relationship isn't benefiting anyone...he's not going to change his tune. RIght now just concentrate on your health and your 3 loves.
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