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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupids. Sorry for the long message. I am breaking apart and really need some advise that can help me to cope with my current situation. I am 29 weeks pregnant and have a 5 year old daughter, my husband left the country over a month ago to a new job. He has only called me once ever since he left. When i chat with him , his answers are so short and luke warm, sometimes he even ignores my messages. His excuse is that his handset is not so good and is busy at work. I really feel so lonely and rejected. To make matters worse, i am not working at the moment and depend on him for everything. I live in our own house. I jus feel like ignoring him and jus living my own life with my other kid and my pregnancy but i jus find myself sending him messages , complaining and he jus ignores or says he has no time to talk abt those my feelings. I feel so stupid and then send another message again. maybe i should just stop sending him the messages and only talk when he talke t me bt jus find myself sending messages. I feel so scared, unloved and foolish. Pliz help with any advise, anyone who has been thru something like this and how did you cope. Thank you in advance for all those who shall reply
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reader, tiakef  +, writes (30 June 2014):
 Honey cheer up, pregnancy makes a woman emotional. Yes he does not have as much time as you would like for him to have to spend with you but you need to focus on the positive. Too much stress is not good for the baby. Keep distracted and do something fun, hang out with friends and play wit your daughter. At the moment you and them comes first. The love of a child is eternal, the love from a man isnt necessarily. When he comes back you should talk to him about how you feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014): This one is tough and I can only imagine what you're going through. I cannot speak for your husband and you cannot assume anything is going on with him. However, you are extremely emotional at this time because of your pregnancy. The best advise I can give you is keep yourself distracted and focus on having a healthy baby. Once the baby comes and have recovered you may need to sit down with him and talk. Tell him how you feel and how he made you feel. Once you know for sure where you stand in the marriage you can make decisions from then on. Unfortunately, because of your situation there are no quick fixes. Just focus on your baby, your daughter and you for now. Everything else will fall into place eventually.
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