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writes:I'm 21 weeks pregnant. I know that as long as you are told it's okay to have sex by your doctor you are in the clear. The only thing that I was wondering, and quite embarrassed to ask my doc, is does it matter how rough you do it? My husband and I tend to get a little carried away, and I'm getting worried that how rough we get could cause something to go wrong. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sandman +, writes (19 March 2009):
 I think the doc might say however you want it, have it.
With some limits, of course. You wouldn't want to do something that could CLEARLY jeopardize your pregnancy. It sounds like you and your husband enjoy some pretty physical sex and the physical sex actually might help when the time comes for birth. Maybe the frequent orgasms help with strengthening the pelvic floor muscles which are needed during the pushing of labor. The physical sex might help with endurance and could possibly increase your stamina for pushing during labor.
But the actual rough sex doesn't really pose much of a problem. Think of it like this: imagine yourself in a large water filled balloon that someone started shaking and banging vigorously, and didn't stop for quite some time. You might gently roll around because the water is sloshing to and fro, but that would be the extent of the damage you would incur. The baby is inside a water filled balloon - and the water acts to cushion the baby from impacts from the outside.
You and your husband are fine! Keep having all that great sex!
Hope this helps!
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reader, Ricky1989  +, writes (19 March 2009):
haha no! its not like the baby is gonna come down, grab his manly bits and rip them off lol
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (19 March 2009):
 You can have a healthy, "frisky" sex life, without harming anything. Keep in mind that the baby is in your uterus, not your vagina. Two completely different parts of the body... (Yes, they are near to eachother, but still not the same thing.) The baby is also floating in a bag of water. So, its not as if your actually going to "bump" the baby. I had a nice, healthy, FUN sex life during my pregnancy. You don't have to stick to one position either, or only go slow, and be bored sexually for the next few months. In fact, you two need to have as much fun as possible before the baby is born. Because once s/he is here, the sex life may tank for a while. Enjoy everything you can for now!
Now, please keep in mind that if it *hurts* or you are uncomfortable with something, stop. And trust me, don't be scared or to shy to ask your dr. I can guarantee you they have heard worse.
This is actually a very common questions with expecting couples. Don't be to shy to ask...
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