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writes:He wants me to spice things up sexually. How?when we have a baby that shares the room and I feel overweight still?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): When you have recently had a baby, sex is usually the last thing on your minds.I can understand just how you feel. Can you get a night alone, maybe a relative have your child for the night, perhaps your mum? Go out have a night out, or an early night in, buy something sexy to wear. How long ago did you have the child? Be aware that you can fall pregnant so easily just after the birth. Just having a few hours alone may be all you two need. Life is tough at first with a new born.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): Lets be practical and realistic.
You baby is too young for you to want to leave with anyone else just yet due to feeding etc?
However it wont be taking any notice of what you are doing infact it probably cant see very far yet so you dont need to worry about that.
I'd like to say I disagree with other comments on here. They seem to be focusing on pleasing your man not how you feel about sex and your body after having a baby.
I would say put it off until you are ready, having a baby is a traumatic experience, in terms of what your body goes through and the mental attachments to that.
You dont have to rush into having sex again, at least not until you are happy to do so.
Perhaps you are ready to have sex again but if you are thinking about the way that you look then you wont enjoy yourself. Take time to do your pelvic floor exercises and take the baby out for a walk in the pram when you can, this will give you both fresh air and start to tone your body aswell. Also spend timing looking at your body in the mirror, learn to be happy with how your body looks now and accept that it will take a little time but will return to how it was before you were pregnant in the end.
Take care - dont do too much too soon. x
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reader, Lila +, writes (14 October 2007):
 It's a tough one,maybe get a sitter and find something you can be sexy in while containing your wobbly parts. Or get the baby to sleep in the bedroom and do it in another room within earshot of the baby of course cause s/he could wake up anytime. That's all a joke truth is,noway you are as overweight as ya feel and he's probably so hard up now if you dressed up as a busdriver he would be excited. Get the baby to sleep,take your man into the next room,and say you really have to ________ me now. He will be turned on,promise.
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reader, thewiseman +, writes (14 October 2007):
 well. does your husband have any sexual fantasies that he would like to try? you can also try role play refer to google if you dont know what that is. as for the baby. ummm im not too knowledgable on that but maybe it would be good for him or her to spend the day at the grandparents house (I know for sure they will babysit). As for the overweight part. Just diet and do vigorous excercise. I have an aunt whose a pilates instructor, after giving birth to her child lost all the weight she gained in a matter of a month and a half.
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