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writes:Just to warn you guys, yes this is another girl who is insecure over porn question. I, like most women, am with a guy who happens to watch porn. Yes, it does make me a bit insecure. I am thinking though if I could understand it a bit better I might be able to get over it though. So I'm curious, do guys watch porn because their tired of their lady and she isn't satisfying them? Are guys actually attracted to the girls in it, and imagine being with them?Or is the act of sex just stimulating and makes the whole process of self servicing easier?Thanks for reading and answering. :)
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reader, vovolady  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 lol im had this problem too when i was ur age. But im 21 and this the answer. All guys watch porn atleast sometimes so get used to it. No they're not actually attracted to them (not well that much lol) because they're whores and they dont know them. They do it for arousal and stimualtion. I would say watch it with him but thats gonna make you really sexually insecure, so this what you wanna do. Let him have his porn, and learn how he wants to be touched from him, let him teach you. Dont watch the porn yet your not ready lol it'll grose you out, or just make you feel like your doing it wrong. And thats just stupid. Just have fun and be safe. And trust him that he'll show you how.
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (28 March 2010):
Guys usually only watch porn if they're bored, or as a way to masturbate. I was uncomfortable about my boyfriend watching porn until I heard him making fun of his roomate for taking the time to remember a pornstars name. It's nothing to him but a way to get off. An ex of mine even admited that he watched porn because of boredom.
It's not only guys either, I'm a female and I can only orgasm when I masturabte while watching porn. For some reason it's impossible for me to orgasm from just imagining something, and I only use porn to get off to. It's completely boring once I've orgasmed and I immediately loose interest, like I'm sure most guys do.
If a guy is looking at porn because he likes the specific women in them, or thinks about them outside of masturbating, then he has some other issues of his own, and it's not your problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): Best not to think too much about what's going on in his head, because even if he was as honest as the day is long, he would find it difficult to explain. I don't want to come over as sexist or anything, but I think you girls think too much.
Both I and my wife watch porn. I'd love to watch it with her, but she insists that it's a private thing, so she shoos me out of the bedroom before turning on the laptop, and since I taught her how to delete her browser history, I have no idea of what she gets off to. And being a man, I don't really care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): My dh watches porn, as do I sometimes. We often watch together.
I don't feel that my dh uses it because he is bored or tired of me. We have a very healthy sex life & have been together 21 years. as said previously, it is more of a masturbation add for men, they are much more visual with their fantasies that women, we have better imaginations! ;)
You have to decide if it bothers you, because if it does, then you need to address this with him. But I can assure you, it is nothing to do with him being tired of you. Have you thought about watching it together?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Well I'm much, much older, but in my opinion, guys watch porn primarily as stimulus to masturbate. Unfortunately, the result after awhile can be that the guy becomes more dependent upon porn stimulus than real sex, amazing as that may sound. Excess masturbation can also desensitize a guy from enjoying normal stimulation. In other words, in my opinion, it is okay in moderation, but it can easily become addictive with today's easy access.
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