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writes:What does it mean if a guy asks you if you have a boyfriend? I was seeing this guy casually on and off for about a year (and also sleeping with him), and then one day during the end of last October we had a misunderstanding that caused me to get angry at him and I basically told him to never talk to me again.Fast forward to this past February, we run into each other and kind of end up smoothing things out. Last weekend we had a short texting conversation, and then yesterday he texed me something like "havent seen you for a while and was thinking it would be nice to catch a movie and catch up but i should probably ask you if you have a boyfriend... just asking as a friend, but i totally understand if you have a boyfriend and don't want to..." is there more to this? or do you guys think he really is just asking out of respect that I might have a boyfriend? (Just to clarify, I don't have a boyfriend)
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reader, vovolady +, writes (28 March 2010):
 lol well he wants to take you out on a date. And so i think its kinda half respect, and half he wants to bone you again. lol but he may very well want an actual realtionship. SO this is how you find out. Go on the date. And then in sly kinda way, meaning dont be akward, work it into the convo..... and the say "so i guess you dont have a girlfriend either" reply most likely to be "no why" then you say, why is that? "idk i dont like anybody right now" (or whatever) then you say, but would you settle down if you did like somebody? and he'll say yes or no and then you know. ANd then you can tell him your position on the situation. kk easy lol
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 March 2010):
Think of it this way: most guys don't want to take you to a movie and want to catch up if they just want to be your friend. In my opinion, I think he's asking you out both out of respect and because he wants to know if it's okay to be a little more friendlier than just friends while out.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 He wants to find out if there is a vacancy sign .He would be interested in you again if there is no b/f.
If your answer was positive, he would probably give a pass.
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reader, LostGirlAnna  +, writes (28 March 2010):
Well there's three ways that he could be thinking about this and three reasons for his question.
1. he really does like you and wants to know if he is wasting his time.
2. You fell out, maybe he feels like he treading on eggshells and doesn't want to seem like he's too forward.
3. He wants to go bac to the carefree, sex filled "relationship" you had and wants to know if your available and so more prone to get attached.
Hope this helps, tell me what happens
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